It’s really sad to see parents not accepting, loving, or embracing their children for who they are. It’s even more painful when not only parents but siblings and other relatives cast aside or distance themselves from their family members due to their orientation or gender.
One woman, who is transgender, recently refused to wear a suit to her sister’s Roman Catholic wedding and has now found herself in a whirlwind of family drama.
She’s 29-years-old and began transitioning just under five years ago. Her parents are 71 and 67 years old, and she has an older sister who’s 32 and will be getting married soon.
“Because of my life choices, my family and I are fairly estranged,” she explained.
“…They have not accepted my transition and still commonly use my deadname, [my] male name, despite how I changed it nearly three years ago.”
While she’ll visit with her family a handful of times a year and exchange texts with them, she isn’t very close with them, as they treat her like the black sheep of the family, and at times, she feels like she’s the “family secret.” Therefore, most of her interactions with her family are superficial.
Her sister got engaged seven months ago, and she learned about it through social media instead of being told by her family.
Her sister will be having a traditional Roman Catholic wedding. Because she’s transgender, her sister hasn’t included her in the bridal party or any of the bridal events leading up to the wedding. She’s been left out of the wedding planning and was specifically asked not to try and participate in the ceremony.
“I was simply sent a save-the-date in the mail like any other normal wedding guest,” she said.