She Suspects Her Boyfriend Is Hiding Behind His “Golden Retriever” Personality Every Time She Gets Upset There’s Something Going On With His Female Coworker
For the last six years, this 28-year-old woman has been dating her boyfriend, and they moved in together two years ago.
Her boyfriend is a child at heart. He loves gaming, he’s pretty naive, he’s dorky, and he’s handsome.
Not too long ago, her boyfriend went away for a work trip along with his new 29-year-old female coworker.
When he came home, he looked like he was floating on clouds. She then realized he was beginning to hide his phone from her, which he had never done before.
She confronted her boyfriend and questioned him about if he realized this, and he claimed he didn’t.
Several days after this incident, she asked her boyfriend if he was texting his female coworker, and he confirmed that he was.
Not only that, he revealed he lied to her before and that he knew he was intentionally hiding his phone, as he was concerned she would think there was more going on with his coworker than friendly intentions.
“We had been going through some other relationship issues related to his avoidant attachment, so I believed him but asked if he could slow down building this new relationship as we work to fix ours,” she explained.
“He agreed. He’s a Golden Retriever! He just wanted everyone to be happy! 2 days later, I felt what can only be explained as women’s intuition (or maybe it was a bad falafel).”
Andrey Kiselev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I asked to see his phone, which I’ve never done. Sure enough, hundreds of photos were shared with the colleague over the last few weeks, and messages shared with her while I was left on read. I asked to see Instagram, and he added and DM’ed her mere hours after I had asked him to slow things down.”
“I thought the messages were flirtatious (talking about showers, how it’s “dangerous” to go against HR and add her on Instagram), but he assured me that he was not capable of that! Again, he’s just a cuddly dog!”
One week after this all went down, her boyfriend insisted that he had told his coworker that she was uneasy with them having a relationship.
She feels bad that her boyfriend blamed everything on her, and she also doesn’t like that he showed their dirty laundry, so to speak, to his coworker.
But as soon as he said that, he wanted her permission to text his female coworker outside of normal work hours once more.
She’s suspicious that her boyfriend has something going on with his coworker, and she suspects he’s just relying on his golden retriever style attitude to throw her off the trail.
“He “feels bad” that he made things awkward,” she said. “All throughout this, he’s still neglected our underlying relationship problems and instead prioritized her and her needs.”
“When I call him out, it’s my fault for assuming such a lovable guy could be capable of such calculated betrayal.”
“He’s close friends with two of his exes, so I don’t have a problem with him having female friends, but this is different. Am I overreacting, or just stupid?”
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