He Got Hit On By A Patient At Work And Told His Girlfriend About It, But She Said She Was “Surprised” That Other Women Found Him Attractive
Recently, this man’s girlfriend took a trip several states away to see her family and celebrate her sister’s birthday. They’ve been dating for a year, and since the trip was planned so spur-of-the-moment, he couldn’t get time off from work to go with her.
He’s a medical provider, so while his girlfriend was away, he was working as usual. Yesterday afternoon, she texted him to ask how his workday was going, so he started explaining a hilarious situation involving one of his patients.
“A very old patient with dementia had been aggressively flirting with me and then told her granddaughter to get my number,” he said.
Later, the patient’s granddaughter obliged her grandmother and asked him if he could provide his phone number, but he kindly refused to do so.
When he told his girlfriend about this situation, he thought it was just a goofy scenario illustrating the crazy things that occasionally happen in the medical field.
“My girlfriend responded, saying, ‘I’m surprised other women find you attractive. I thought it was just me.’ Thinking she was joking, I said, ‘Ouch?'” he explained.
She texted back, clarifying that she didn’t feel like he was hideous or anything, but she hadn’t ever given any thought to whether other women would find him attractive or not.
He was baffled and shocked that she wasn’t kidding. He expressed to her that what she said was a bit degrading, and he couldn’t help but feel like she was taking him for granted and belittling him.
His girlfriend apologized and said she hadn’t intended to hurt his feelings, adding that since she felt like he was the right man for her, she naturally believed that she was the only woman who would think he was good-looking.
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Understandably, he was still upset and annoyed despite his girlfriend’s apology and explanation. He thought it was hypocritical that she had this point of view when other men constantly flirted with her, and she let him know about these situations.
It didn’t make sense to him that his girlfriend understood that other men thought she was good-looking, but she couldn’t comprehend the idea of other women finding him good-looking.
“It feels like she’s linking my attractiveness to her and her gaze only and connecting me and my attractiveness only when related to her,” he shared.
Then, he let his girlfriend know that she hurt him and made him feel like she didn’t value him. He stated that it seemed like his girlfriend was negatively judging what he looked like.
She didn’t agree with his point of view, saying that he was blowing the conversation out of proportion and that she wasn’t demeaning him.
As the argument escalated, his girlfriend started ignoring him, and he assumed she had gone to bed before they could resolve the issue.
What advice would you give him?
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