He Intends To Get A Prenup When He Eventually Gets Engaged Because His Girlfriend Has Cheated Twice Before, And He Earns More Money Than Her, But She Thinks That He’s Already Planning On The Downfall Of Their Relationship
This 27-year-old guy and his girlfriend, who is 26, have been dating for four years. He claims to really love his girlfriend, and she currently lives with him in a home that he owns.
Yet, over the course of their relationship, his girlfriend has cheated on him twice– that he knows of. Still, he’s been willing to look past those instances since he and his girlfriend haven’t had any problems in a long time.
In terms of their financial situation, he has a “decent” job right now, where he earns about $62,000 plus benefits. There’s also room for him to get promoted from his current position.
His girlfriend, on the other hand, currently works part-time in two different jobs– earning around $38,000 per year.
“With no willingness to improve her credentials or position,” he added.
Anyway, just the other night, his girlfriend started talking about a friend of hers who was the “breadwinner” in their relationship. And after his girlfriend’s friend got married, they got divorced within just one year.
So now, his girlfriend’s friend has been left paying alimony to their ex-husband, even though they got cheated on.
After hearing about this sad turn of events in his girlfriend’s friend’s relationship, he just laughed and claimed that’s exactly why he would want a prenuptial agreement before tying the knot.
“So God forbid if anything ever went south, I would not lose all I have ever worked for,” he reasoned.
Vasyl – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Well, his girlfriend didn’t understand his point and just got extremely angry at him– accusing him of already planning on their divorce.
But, in his mind, a prenup simply makes sense. After all, his girlfriend currently doesn’t contribute to their expenses, and she doesn’t have a retirement fund or anything that he would be able to try to claim in the event of a divorce.
“Why should I hold all the risk when I don’t ever plan on getting divorced but want the protection because I know life is crazy?” he asked.
His girlfriend has already broken his trust on two occasions in the past. And while he knows that no one ever really plans for their spouse to cheat or their marriage to end, it winds up happening for 50% of nuptials. He even works in an industry that has a high divorce rate, too.
That’s why he really just wants to protect himself because he’s watched marriages go south too many times before.
“I’ve seen too many people lose everything because the other person leached and lived a relaxed life while the other worked their life away to then be unable to retire,” he vented.
So, he refused to budge about wanting a prenup. But now, with his girlfriend not talking to him since their argument, he’s been left wondering if admitting that he wants to get a prenup was the wrong decision.
Does it sound like a prenup would be a smart decision, given their past relationship troubles and the income disparity between him and his girlfriend? Should he give in just because he made his girlfriend upset, or hold his ground? What would you do?
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