He Went On A Few Wonderful Dates With A Girl, But She Hesitated When He Asked To Make Things Official
For two and a half months now, this 28-year-old guy has been seeing a 26-year-old girl. They initially met through a mutual friend, and he feels everything has been going great between him and this girl.
They went on their first date in the middle of November, and ever since, they have spent close to every single weekend together.
When they aren’t spending time with one another, they talk a lot during the week. He thinks this girl is effortless to be around, and they have been romantic in a physical sense as well.
“I will say, despite all of the fun and closeness we’ve shared, she’s not very outwardly proactive about our relationship unless I prompt things, whether that be emotionally or romantically,” he explained.
“Which is okay, as she’s always been happy to branch out as soon as I bring things up, it’s just hard to read her sometimes.”
Also, he has asked to spend time with her every weekend for close to three months, so he doesn’t suspect she’s just being polite.
He thinks she has to actually like him; otherwise, why would she invest this kind of time, energy, and attention into him?
So, last night they went on a date, and since they’re coming up on spending three months seeing one another, he decided to test the waters.
First, he asked her how she felt about them and questioned her about if she was still having a good time dating.
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“She pretty emphatically and happily yes to that, and how she’s enjoying things and wanted to keep seeing each other,” he said.
“However, when I then asked if I could call her my girlfriend, she paused and said she’d have to think about it and almost seemed a tiny bit caught off guard by me asking.”
“I’m very respectful of this thought and glad she’s not saying yes just to say it, and I told her that. And I do believe she’ll think about it.”
They kissed at the end of their date before saying goodnight, but he can’t help but feel thrown off and confused about what her hesitation is to commit.
He was concerned he had waited too long to ask her to be his official girlfriend, and he was hoping this girl didn’t feel like he was taking his sweet time.
He feels hurt and puzzled by how she replied to him popping that question on their date.
“I must say, too: she’s also a very classy girl in a similar boat as me in terms of her dating life; we’re both relatively inexperienced for our ages,” he said.
“She really doesn’t strike me as someone who is out to use me for free dates or is looking to just hook up or something.”
“My question is: do you think it’s a red flag that she seemingly hasn’t thought about being boyfriend/girlfriend? Everything we do is very much “dating,” and I’d find it very hard to believe she just sees me as a friend. Or am I just overreacting to a response I wasn’t expecting?”
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