Her Boyfriend Proposed To Her With A Ring She Didn’t Want And Made No Effort, So She Rejected Him
This 26-year-old woman and her 27-year-old boyfriend have been together for two years, and they moved in together a year ago.
In February, they’re actually going to be buying their very first home. She and her boyfriend are serious about the future with one another, and they have talked about marriage several times.
Throughout those conversations, she made it clear to her boyfriend that she wanted a very specific engagement ring.
“I would have loved to go antique shopping together until we found a ring that was beautiful and affordable,” she explained.
“I’ve mentioned this, as well as my reluctance to have a ring from a big box store, multiple times in the relationship.”
“Around our anniversary, he began showing me photos of rings for a promise ring instead of an engagement ring. He wanted me to have something to symbolize the next chapter in our life.”
Her boyfriend then proceeded to show her photos of rings she didn’t like in the least. So, she pointed out to him what kind of rings were her favorite in regard to the cut and style.
All the rings were from big box stores and available online. While this went against her dream of an engagement ring, she thought it would be fine for simply a promise ring.
She and her boyfriend talked about promise rings less than a week ago. Then, two days ago, when she came home from work, she walked through the door to find her boyfriend down on one knee right in the middle of their living room.
Iuliia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“It was the most surreal experience,” she said. “There was no music, no photos, and if I’m being totally honest, no effort.”
“He didn’t say anything, so I just laughed and told him to stop playing around. I was in a state of absolute confusion. He was actually proposing with the promise ring he had me pick out.”
“I felt so awkward I ended up saying yes to the proposal, and when it came time to call our parents and tell them the news, I just wanted to cry. This wasn’t what I wanted.”
She said to her boyfriend she wanted to wait before letting their loved ones know about their engagement, and he couldn’t believe she was seriously asking that of him.
She questioned him about why he decided to propose to her with the promise ring instead of an engagement ring before mentioning that’s not the point of a promise ring at all.
A promise ring, by definition, comes before an engagement ring and signifies a promise of commitment and monogamy.
The whole point of an engagement ring is to present it to someone you actually want to get married to. So, you can see where her confusion stems from.
“He thought I loved the ring, which I did…but for a promise ring,” she continued. “He began with, “I know you wanted to go to an antique store…” and I politely denied the proposal.”
“I said he was fully aware of how I envisioned my proposal, and his disregard for what I wanted on this (hopefully) once-in-a-lifetime opportunity has left a bad taste in my mouth. I’m seriously rethinking marriage and buying a home with him.”
“We’re not in a great spot at the moment, and I’m not sure where to go from here. What is the next step after rejecting his proposal?”
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