Her Boyfriend Rated Her Attractiveness As An 8, But Gave Her Friend A 9
This 26-year-old woman and her 29-year-old boyfriend were having a conversation yesterday evening that you might want to avoid having with your own significant other.
Looking back, she admits their discussion was strange, and they started conversing about how they believe their friends think of them.
She offered up that she believes their friends feel they’re the sanest couple in their entire group and that they look attractive with one another.
She went on to say they have balance, and they do not have any glaringly obvious issues in their relationship. Her boyfriend then rated their relationship overall as an 8.5 out of 10.
“I tried to understand what he meant, and he pointed out that both he and I are an 8.5 out of 10 in terms of looks, and so other people probably perceive us like that,” she explained.
“I said, jokingly, who’s a 10 then and he said a 10 is the perfect couple, like the most good-looking people having the most perfect relationship (he made an example and said Brangelina), so I teased him a bit more and asked who’s a 9, and he said, “probably our friends X and Y.”
“I felt a bit off when he said those names because he has made comments in the past about how the girl in that couple is very pretty; in fact, last night, he went on and stated that on a purely aesthetic level, she is prettier than me.”
She could not help but feel like her boyfriend stabbed her in the back by stating he thought her friend was prettier than her.
I mean, he rated her an 8 in the looks department but gave her friend a 9. She has always struggled with feeling comfortable in her skin, and she has battled insecurities and sensitivity in general.
innarevyako – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She has always dreamed of dating a guy who is completely obsessed with her and treats her like they won the lottery by being in a relationship with her…but it’s looking like this guy is clearly not her boyfriend.
“…I know I’m not a 10 on a scale from 0 to Angelina Jolie, but I would expect my boyfriend of 4 years to think I’m at least prettier than my friend, who we both know and hang out with,” she said.
“I’ve gained weight recently, my self-esteem is low, and I am not as confident as I used to be; I have told him about my insecurities before, and he’s always said that in his eyes, I am beautiful, but last, night, he had to specify that people objectively might not think the same.”
Her boyfriend followed this all up by asking her if she was angry at him, but she said she was not.
Honestly, it’s not a lie. She’s not mad at her boyfriend; she thinks the whole voting thing that they were engaging in is silly and childlike.
She’s feeling strange and hurt that her boyfriend would think to name her friend as the most attractive out of everyone they know.
“Why is he not with her then?” she wondered. “Is he with me just because she wasn’t available? Because he didn’t find anyone better, and I just happened to be his least worst opinion?”
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