She Filed For Divorce After Her Husband Humiliated Her By Canceled Their Wedding Reception Three Days Beforehand
This 25-year-old woman and her 27-year-old husband have had a real rollercoaster relationship. Her husband’s family is absolutely awful, and that has put a lot of stress on the two of them.
Last month, she and her husband were finally going to have their blowout wedding reception after actually getting married at the courthouse previously, and she was really looking forward to this.
But then her husband canceled their wedding completely just a few days beforehand.
“He, last minute 3 days prior, said he didn’t want the wedding anymore because his family wouldn’t be there,” she explained.
“Cue canceling everything last minute, having to deal with the embarrassment of my entire family having flown in, a ton of [stuff]. It was humiliating. I told him before the wedding that if he pulled anything, like trying to push the wedding back or canceling it, that I’d be filing for divorce because I’m done with this song and dance.”
“I’ve been dragged through for 3 years now with this…and if he couldn’t commit to me publicly with the wedding after all this, then I was done.”
She has put up with a ton of stuff his terrible family has thrown at her throughout the years, and her husband used to be appreciative of that.
So, add a canceled wedding to that, and it was the final straw for her. Just as she threatened to do, she followed through with filing for the divorce.
Right now, she and her husband are attempting to fix their issues, and they are planning to do a tiny elopement with their friends and move on.
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“He’s had some epiphanies with reference to his family, and things seem to be getting better with him; he’s developing in ways I’ve always wanted to see,” she said.
“However, he’s suddenly irate about the fact that I filed for divorce. Talking about ‘this doesn’t align with my vision for a wife,’ ‘I’m shocked you actually filed for divorce instead of working through this with me,’ ‘I don’t want to be with someone who wanted to divorce me over this,’ ‘you’re not a ride or die or loyal like I thought you were.’”
She feels as if her husband is being manipulative. She even asked him if he thinks she should always put up with how he treats her before also asking if she should just accept all of the promises he has broken without being able to walk away from it all.
Her husband replied that she was allowed to be angry with him, and she’s permitted to make threats about leaving him, but her actually wanting to file for divorce is crossing a line.
Her husband is the one currently threatening to leave her, and she feels lost. She’s not convinced he really will leave her in the end, but she’s puzzled about how to make amends with him.
“He was the one that’s supposed to be proving himself to me, and he has been, but all of a sudden, I’m the bad guy for filing for divorce,” she continued.
Prior to her husband blowing up about the divorce, he was making a real effort. He started going to therapy, implemented some very healthy habits, and created solid boundaries with his family members.
He also said he would do anything in the world to help her renew the trust she previously had for him. It was all on the way up until it crashed and burned.
What do you think she should do?
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