His Wife Asked For A Separation, So He Got A New Girlfriend, But Now That His Wife Wants To Reconcile, He Wants To Keep Them Both
While this man and his wife are still married, they decided to separate for six months. Apparently, this was his wife’s idea, and they were both at fault for the separation.
More recently, though, he found out that his wife had been seeing and hooking up with another guy throughout their separation, and he was furious.
But, when he confronted his wife, she claimed that they’d never talked about remaining exclusive during the separation. He admits that they didn’t, either.
His wife also told him that if he wanted her to stop seeing other guys, then she would.
However, after taking some time to think about it, he wound up telling his wife to do whatever she wants. After all, it’s not like she can go back and not hook up with the other guy.
“And if she [hooked up] one time, it’s not different from [hooking up] more than one time,” he reasoned.
Then, after finding out about his wife seeing other people, he began dating again, too. He’s since entered a “kind of” relationship with another woman, and apparently, they both have romantic feelings for each other.
“We are not exclusive, though. She can date other people, and I can, too,” he noted.
Regardless, his wife now wants to reconcile their marriage since she’s reportedly “worked on her issues” and is going to therapy. But while he is open to that, mainly because they have kids who are obviously involved in the situation, he admitted that he’s now in love with the other woman he’s been seeing.
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So, he actually wants to keep the other woman in his life, and he told his wife that he’s willing to work on their marriage, but he isn’t ready to let go of his girlfriend.
After he told his wife that, she pointed out how she’d never hooked up with anyone again after they had the discussion about exclusivity during their separation since she thought it would hurt their chances of ever fixing their marriage.
“She even showed me the message from her to the other guy about never contacting her again and blocking him one hour after I called her,” he added.
Despite that, he told his wife that was irrelevant since she couldn’t turn back time and change the fact that she already hooked up with the other guy.
He also revealed how he really loves his new girlfriend and enjoys spending time with her.
This pushed his wife to ask how long he intended to continue seeing his girlfriend, and he admitted that he wanted to keep it going for as long as he could.
“She is not a fling. I love her. I can’t just discard her, nor do I want to,” he said.
He did clarify that he doesn’t want to build a new family with his girlfriend, and she reportedly isn’t interested in that, either.
Instead, he just wants to enjoy his girlfriend’s company while still rebuilding his family with his wife.
Now, as you can probably imagine, his wife wasn’t okay with that. Still, he refused to budge– pointing out how his wife was the one who wanted them to separate in the first place.
So, he claimed that she couldn’t expect him to not fall in love with another woman.
“So here we stand. I do want to reconcile, but I won’t stop seeing my girlfriend,” he vented.
“I love my wife, and I love my girlfriend. I don’t plan to choose, and my girlfriend is okay with me reconciling with my wife.”
With his wife so upset over this, though, he’s been left wondering if telling his wife that he doesn’t plan on being monogamous in their marriage anymore was really the wrong thing to do.
Does it sound like his marriage is simply over at this point? Is it realistic to think that he could successfully “rebuild” his marriage while still having a girlfriend on the side?
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