She Believes Her Husband Is In Love With A Married Woman His Family Expected Him To Be With
For five years now, this 29-year-old woman has been married to her 30-year-old husband, and they have a daughter together.
Their marriage has really been on the rocks recently, as her husband has been struggling with substance abuse issues.
Also, her husband is pushing for them to have a second child, as he really wants a son, but she knows they cannot afford two children.
This past Saturday evening, she and her husband were invited to a birthday party for one of their close male friends.
This guy’s wife and her husband have been very close friends since they were born, and both of their families are exceptionally close.
Her husband also went to school with this guy’s wife, and everyone figured the two of them would end up in a relationship.
“It’s always been kind of acknowledged in the background by other people that they were expected to get together,” she explained.
“His mom has made comments in the past, but I always took it sort of jokingly. I know when he came back from his last military leave, she was already in a relationship with her husband, and he met me not long after.”
“Anyway, back to the party. It was a pretty big affair at their house, and the husband got a little tipsy (the first time I’ve ever seen that happen). He was going on about how much he loves his wife and how she planned the party, which was really sweet, then he sort of clapped my husband on the back and said, “I wouldn’t have it all if you hadn’t given it up!”
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She let out a laugh, even though she was confused by his words, and this guy laughed too. His wife was not present as this was all going on, and her husband did not laugh.
Instead, her husband looked completely shocked. He ended up disappearing for some time, before reappearing after a few drinks, clearly in an awful mood.
As she and her husband drove home later on, her husband went on a tirade about this guy and how he was a jerk.
Then, her husband listed out all the things he had to give up in order to be with her and how his life was supposed to have turned out very differently.
Finally, her husband called her terrible since she would never do what the wife of this guy does, whatever that means.
She actually asked her husband to elaborate, and he simply said if this woman had waited around for him, she never would have gotten married to this guy.
Her husband went to bed when they got home, and although she has tried to discuss what he said in the car, her husband maintains he forgot what he even said.
Her husband has also told her she has nothing to be concerned about, regardless. But he’s been busy on his phone and ignoring her since the birthday bash.
Thinking back, she believes there are many red flags pointing to her husband being in love with this married woman.
“I always thought he looked at her lovingly like a long-term friend would, but I’m wondering now if there’s more behind it,” she said.
“She’s always been really kind to me and sent us a really thoughtful care package after our baby was born (she has four boys). I was also his first “serious relationship,” but I think he’s been holding a candle for this woman for years. As far as I know, they never dated.”
“I’m not really sure what to do here and looking for advice. He’s a good dad when he’s not drunk…and has offered to go to counseling.”
“It’s not like he could leave me for her; she’s obviously happily married, but I don’t want to be with someone who is obviously in love with someone else. Am I crazy, or is my husband in love with this woman? Is our relationship even salvageable after this?”
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