She’s Upset Her Parents Gave Her Sister All The College Money They Saved Up For The Two Of Them
This 23-year-old woman has a relationship with her mom that’s very tumultuous. When she was little, her mom tried to control her terribly and did not respond well to criticism, which made living in the same house as her intolerable.
As for her dad, she has always gotten along with him. When it came time for her to start going to college, her mom and dad mentioned they had basically no money saved to help pay for her tuition or her 22-year-old sister’s either.
She is aware that her mom and dad were saddled with a ton of debt back when they were growing up, so she figured there was no way they could afford to save any kind of money for her sister and her to go to college.
She ended up going to a local college for a 4-year honors program, and her sister also went local and attended a vet tech program for 2 years. It cost her $32,000 for college, and her sister’s total was $20,000.
In her final year of college, the pandemic hit, and even though she had a wonderful job waiting for her upon graduation, it got ripped out from underneath her because of “lack of funding.”
On top of that, she wasn’t sure how to pay for her tuition, as she had a bit of money saved to pay for it, but she was so anguished over losing her promised job.
She confided in her sister about how distressed she felt, and her sister said she should ask their parents for money from their college fund.
“Turns out, my parents DID have money put aside for us,” she explained. “I was lower middle-class growing up. [My] parents didn’t have a ton of money; however, they managed to put aside around $8k for both my sister and me to go to college…”
“Their plan was to give each of us the 4k, but after I got a good job in year one of uni, they had given my sister ALL the money for her schooling because “I had more savings than her and I had a better job.”
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“During a convo with my mom, I prompted the question about the school fund. This began a conversation about how I’m better off than my sister because I have more savings, but then neglected to acknowledge the fact that I had almost double her debt. I no longer had a job and I was now struggling to keep up with tuition. The conversation was surprisingly calm, albeit a little frustrating.”
A couple of hours later, her mom sent her a text saying that she was really upset with her for even discussing the college fund money.
Her mom called her rude and went on to say she couldn’t believe she had the nerve to ask for some of the money.
She replied to her mom that while she knows it’s not her money, so she doesn’t get a say, it was not fair of her mom to decide to give all the money to her sister, as it was intended for the two of them.
Her mom is now demanding that she apologize to her for what she said.
What do you think?
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