He Wants To Leave His Girlfriend Because She Asked For An Open Relationship, And He Thinks That’s A Major Red Flag
This 27-year-old guy and his girlfriend, who is also 27, have been together for three years, and their relationship has always been “stable.” According to him, he never detected any red flags from his girlfriend.
Yet, just last Saturday, she totally took him by surprise when she asked if they could open up their relationship.
Apparently, his girlfriend’s reasoning was that they didn’t “get to enjoy themselves” in the past, presumably before their relationship. Plus, she thought having an open relationship would help strengthen their love and romance.
But he didn’t even entertain the idea before immediately rejecting it. His girlfriend also seemed pretty upset by his reaction, but he didn’t care.
“I am not going to lie: an open relationship suggestion out of nowhere is a huge red flag for me and means there is probably someone else she has in mind already,” he explained.
Not to mention, he’s already been cheated on by past partners. That’s why, when they first started dating, he made it clear to his girlfriend that he wanted them to have a monogamous relationship before they even became exclusive.
So, after she suggested opening up their relationship, his mind couldn’t stop spinning, and he went “mental” for a couple of days.
And now, after thinking the whole situation over, he honestly just wants to break up with his girlfriend.
“I do love her, but she opened Pandora’s box, and I am not sure if I can trust her in this relationship,” he reasoned.
Valerii Honcharuk – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“It will not be healthy for both sides.”
He’s also pretty scarred from his last relationship, which he tried to save following a bout of trust issues. Spoiler alert: none of his efforts worked.
That’s why he really isn’t interested in getting heartbroken again or having his mental health damaged.
“But at the same time, I doubt myself because I love her, and it’s a 3-year-old relationship,” he vented.
So, he’s been left feeling torn and isn’t sure if leaving his girlfriend after she suggested an open relationship instead of trying to salvage their romance would really be the wrong thing to do.
How would you feel if your partner wanted to open up your relationship? Do you agree it’s a red flag or not? Should he end it?
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