Her Boyfriend Admitted To Lying About Wanting To Get Married Or Have Kids Just So She’d Date Him, And Now She Feels Totally Blindsided
Have you ever been in a relationship where you were sure you wanted the same thing for your future together, but suddenly, your partner changed their mind?
One woman is unsure what to do after her boyfriend of six years suddenly told her he never wanted marriage or children, even though he assured her that he did for the majority of their relationship.
She’s 36 and has been with her 37-year-old boyfriend for six years. Their relationship was long-distance for four out of the six years, as they both went to school in separate locations.
“When we met, he was sure he wanted kids, marriage, and all that as soon as he graduated,” she explained.
“I was willing to wait because I was also going back to school to advance my career a little late in life. He also wanted a job in a city where there were job prospects for both of us. We wanted the same future; it was a great fit.”
However, they recently graduated, and her boyfriend moved to a city for work, which was part of his future plans. But then, he decided to drop a bomb on her and their future.
He told her he did not want to get married or have children and never did. He casually admitted that he told her all that years ago just to please and get her to date him. He then told her he wanted her to move out to the city he lived in, although it’d be a difficult place for her to find a job in her field.
She felt extremely blindsided by her boyfriend when he suddenly admitted how he truly felt.
“I’ve literally spent the last four years in school working toward this goal and saving up for it, which he knew,” she said.
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“I want kids, marriage, and to work in the field I have worked the last four years to be able to work in. I don’t feel like that’s excessive when it was the deal from the get-go.”
After telling her friends and family what was happening, most of them surprisingly suggested that she stay with her boyfriend despite the sudden change in plans.
They said that the “ship” for getting married and having kids had already sailed and that she should accept her fate and stay with him.
However, she feels like she could still have a shot at the future she wants, but she also doesn’t want to risk losing her boyfriend because of how far they’ve come.
What would you do if you were in her position?
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