Her Sister Asked Her To Be A Surrogate Despite Bullying Her Throughout Childhood And Knowing She Has A Serious Heart Condition
This 31-year-old woman’s older sister, Mary, 33, has always been the favorite child of the family. Their parents put Mary on a pedestal because she was beautiful, a strong athlete, and got good grades.
“She is described as my parents’ golden apple baby. I, on the other hand, was born two years later. I was an accident. I was born prematurely with a heart condition,” she said.
Throughout her childhood, she was hospitalized and had numerous surgeries. Sadly, their parents constantly shamed her for costing them so much money due to her health issues, despite her grandparents footing the bill for the expenses that her family’s health insurance wouldn’t cover.
Her sister despised her and always made it clear by endlessly bullying her. Unfortunately, their parents never stepped in to discipline her sister.
After high school graduation, she pleaded with her grandparents for them to pay for her to attend a college several states away from home so that she could escape her sister.
In her view, this was the best choice she made because she met her now-husband, Greg, while in college.
He was wonderful and kind from the beginning of their relationship, and he always made her feel confident and gorgeous no matter what she looked like or what her body size was.
Not long after college graduation, she and Greg got married. His parents paid for their wedding because her parents said they couldn’t afford to pay for any of it after spending so much money on her sister’s wedding the year before. In the end, her parents didn’t come to her wedding.
After getting married, she and Greg decided to live in the city where they attended college. Aside from her grandparents, she didn’t stay in contact with her family.
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Years later, she and Greg had a son, and the pregnancy was considered high-risk due to her medical history. Doctors were concerned for her life if she chose to continue the pregnancy.
“The results could be fatal. Luckily, we both made it. I almost didn’t, though. The amount of strain it put on my heart was detrimental. I was strongly urged by doctors not to have any more children, and we agreed,” she explained.
A month ago, she learned that her grandfather was in poor health, and she was hoping to be closer to him.
So, she, Greg, and their son moved to her hometown. All of a sudden, once she now was near her parents and sister again, they began reaching out with kind words, which was incredibly uncharacteristic of them.
Multiple times, her mother asked her how she was and expressed how proud she was of what she’s accomplished in life, and her sister echoed this sentiment.
She was suspicious of their behavior, but when she told her grandma what they were doing, she advised her to give them the opportunity to make up for the past.
Her grandma suggested that maybe they were acting this way because since she’d been living far away for so long, they’d grown to miss her.
Two weeks after the strange behavior started, her parents invited her to their house for a family dinner. She agreed to go, and she brought Greg with her.
“While at the table, my sister said she had a present for me. She whipped out a card, and I opened it, expecting it to be an apology letter. But no. To my surprise, it was a letter stating that my sister found out she was infertile and congratulating me on becoming her surrogate. I was floored,” she shared.
She explained to her sister that she couldn’t be her surrogate, pointing out how dangerous it was when she was pregnant with her son and how much it affected her heart and health in general.
Her sister burst into tears, and their parents yelled at her, calling her self-centered for refusing to be her sister’s surrogate.
In response, she said that doctors warned her not to get pregnant again, but they didn’t listen. According to her parents, “‘For family, you take risks.'”
These words understandably left her stunned. She grabbed Greg by the arm, and they marched out of her parents’ house.
Even though she’s furious with her family, she wonders if she did the right thing by refusing to be her sister’s surrogate.
What advice would you give her?
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