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A few weeks passed after that conversation, and he admitted to this gym girl that he had lied to her face.
“I told her I said “no” because I liked her but that I wasn’t comfortable lying and wanted her to know I was, in fact, in a relationship,” he said.
“She was cool about it, said she was informally dating someone too, and that she liked me too. We agreed to remain as friends. I didn’t say I was getting married.”
“Months went by, and I began feeling the pressure. I was getting closer to marriage with a girl I had not been comfortable with since I proposed, and my “friendship” with this new girl was getting better and better. Probably dumb of me, but I figured I should just go ahead with it and have a little fling so that I could get it out of my chest before being officially married.”
Initially, he asked the gym girl if he could kiss her, which is something he has never done before. In the past, he always just went in for a kiss without asking for permission first.
However, he decided to do things differently with the gym girl, as he felt it was important for her to be in the driver’s seat since she knew he was in a committed relationship.
The gym girl agreed to kiss him, and they made out several times. He tried to take things further, but she pointed out that she was uneasy with it, given the fact that he was about to get married.
One week before his wedding day, he asked the gym girl out so they could have a conversation. He intended to just clear the air with her and ensure that they could carry on with their lives as normal.
“She said she was cool and not in love with me, so I was glad she wouldn’t be hurt,” he continued. “I wanted to tell her about my upcoming marriage, so I gauged the water but sensed no interest from her.”
“After the “serious” talk, we just kept chatting about other things for a while. The chemistry was really good, however, and we ended up kissing again, supposedly for the last time. That following weekend I got married and was so relieved. No more planning, no more tasks, and finally, time to enjoy ourselves. The wedding was great, and we both were genuinely happy.”
“After the wedding, however, I started feeling depressed and disconnected from my wife. It’s been a month and a half since and things have not improved for us. I’ve been feeling this sensation when everything the other person does feels annoying, even things that I know are irrelevant or things I used to like about her. I hate feeling this way.”
