She’s Breaking Up With Her Boyfriend After He Ate The Donut She Ordered For Breakfast
A bit more than two years ago, this 34-year-old woman and her 35-year-old boyfriend both got laid off from their jobs in tech.
Although the market was pretty sketchy at the time, she managed to land a job within several weeks of being laid off.
However, her boyfriend has not applied himself at all and has since been unemployed. At first, her boyfriend maintained he wanted to find a job in a new industry, which she was supportive of.
She was happy to be the breadwinner as her boyfriend figured out what he wanted to do, and she believed him when he said he wanted to find a more stable career.
“I make decent money and told him I would support him while he transitioned to something more sound because I thought that was a wise investment for both of us going forward,” she explained.
“Our relationship was strong, and he was the kindest, most gentle, sweetest man I’d ever met, and I was confident this was an investment in us and our future.”
She presumed that her boyfriend would spend a few months applying to similar roles or would take some kind of classes to make him stand out more, but that never occurred.
For two entire years now, her boyfriend has either spent his days playing video games or pursuing ridiculous careers like being an influencer.
If her boyfriend actually tried to make influencing work, maybe she wouldn’t have a problem, but he has put in zero effort.
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“He never checked analytics, planned upload schedules, and gave anything but the bare minimum effort to content,” she said.
“Nothing. He has never gotten more than a couple of hundred views on anything. I have sacrificed things I want and need time and time again to get him supplies and subscriptions for his ventures. He will swear he needs it to succeed, and then he’ll be able to contribute to the bills.”
“A new microphone here, a new graphics card there. Lighting. A camera. Meanwhile, it’s coming out of vacation funds I could save, investments, furniture we need, or add to a down payment for a house. I’ve given up luxuries I love and COULD afford, like getting my nails and hair done to make sure our rent and bills are paid.”
She wouldn’t even mind if her boyfriend helped out around the house, but he does not clean, cook, or do anything at all.
He also stopped making an effort to plan dates for them or anything special for her birthday. When he does order food, he never asks her if she wants anything.
He frequently breaks her belongings and then doesn’t get why she’s hurt, as he believes everything can simply be replaced.
She has constantly argued with her boyfriend about how she thinks he’s using her and treating her like a cash cow.
She has pushed him to get a job since she’s breaking down having to carry the burden of financially supporting the two of them.
Every time she has this argument with her boyfriend, he begs her to forgive him and promises to try, but he goes right back to his lazy ways.
On Thursday, she ended up ordering breakfast for the two of them as a treat. She only wanted to have a donut and a coffee, but her boyfriend ordered a lot of food for himself.
She was on a call for work when their breakfast got delivered, and by the time she got off the phone, her boyfriend had downed his food.
She questioned her boyfriend about where the donut she ordered had gone, and he admitted that he had eaten it.
“He didn’t wait to ask,” she added. “He didn’t even stop to question where my food might have been. He saw that there was no other food in the bag and still thought only of himself and ate it.”
“I broke down into tears. It finally hit me. That one action made me realize how little care and respect he has for me, how selfish he actually is, and how big of an idiot I am. Now I’m sitting here wondering how to separate myself from someone completely dependent on me.”
What advice do you have for her? Do you think it’s the right thing for her to break up with him?
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