She’s Going On A Trip Instead Of Attending Her Father’s Wedding Since He’s Marrying A Woman He Started Dating Just Two Weeks After Her Mother Died
Four years ago, this 18-year-old woman’s mom tragically and unexpectedly passed away after suffering from a virus for less than a month. Leading up to her mom’s death, close friends and family thought she would pull through.
Even on the day she passed away, her mom thought she was going to recover from the virus. Her grandma was always visiting during her mother’s hospitalization.
Barely two weeks later, her dad began a new relationship. While she was mourning the loss of her mom and struggling with immense grief, her dad’s new partner, whom he told her he met at his job, came over to the house often.
Understandably, this was uncomfortable for her because she had no idea who this woman was, and her mother had died just days ago.
Over the years, she wondered if her father had been cheating on her mother with this woman since he started dating her so quickly, but no matter how their relationship began, she had never liked this woman.
“We were all shocked by the fact that my father introduced his girlfriend when we were all grieving. It’s something no one understands to this day,” she said.
Next week, her father and his partner, now his fiancée, are getting married the day before her 21-year-old cousin’s birthday. Recently, her cousin was offered a scholarship to a college overseas.
Her aunt and uncle offered to pay for her cousin to plan a week-long vacation at the beach as a celebration of her scholarship.
She learned that her aunt, uncle, and even some of her cousins aren’t attending her father’s wedding because they’re planning to attend her cousin’s beach trip instead.
franciscopgr – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“My cousin arranged the trip entirely on purpose to ruin my father’s wedding since my mother was her godmother,” she explained.
“My father was mad at her, but my cousin told him that she was not going to cancel her trip for a second wedding, or, in her literal words by text, ‘I’m much more interested in seeing the grass grow than in your wedding.'”
Today, her dad learned that she was attending her cousin’s trip instead of his wedding, and he was furious.
During the conversation with her, he started sobbing, claiming that “everyone is punishing him for finding love.”
In response, she questioned whether her mom had been his soulmate. Her dad continued sobbing as he told her she wasn’t old enough to comprehend what he was going through.
She dismissed this comment because he uses this phrase often when he wants to shut down a conversation.
Over the years, her father has claimed she’s not old enough to discuss serious issues like politics that she was interested in talking about with him.
According to her dad, his fiancée was his genuine soulmate, and in her view, it sounded like he was insinuating that her mother hadn’t been.
On the other hand, her mother told her that her dad was her soulmate up until the day she passed away, and it was devastating and heartbreaking to think of how her mom would feel to know that her father may not have loved her as deeply as she’d loved him.
“Can you really find the love of your life in two weeks? I understand that grief is different for everyone, but who grieves spending Christmas with your new girlfriend and not with your daughter, who lost her mother? He neglected me. Even if I was a teen, everything was always about how he feels and wants,” she shared.
Despite her father’s hysterical crying, she doubled down on her decision not to go to his wedding. Later, her father’s mother called her to pray.
During the call, her grandma claimed she wasn’t being fair to her dad or respecting that he’d fallen in love again.
This conversation didn’t sway her because she doesn’t feel comfortable attending her father’s wedding or even being around him.
She hasn’t had a close bond with her dad ever since she realized he wasn’t the paternal figure she needed him to be.
She clarified that her parents were never in an open marriage, and her mom would have immediately filed for divorce if her dad suggested opening their marriage.
Her mom was always monogamous and directly stated numerous times that she hated the idea of open marriages, so she would have never stayed married to someone if her partner wanted to be with other people.
Plus, her mom openly told her she wouldn’t stay married if she and her father were no longer happy together.
She and her mom were incredibly close, so they were always open and shared a lot with one another.
It seemed like her mother thought her marriage was stable, but since her father moved onto a new relationship so quickly, it didn’t seem to her like he was as in love with her mother as she always thought he’d been.
What advice would you give her?
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