She’s No Longer Attending Her Best Friend’s Destination Wedding Because She Got Demoted From Maid Of Honor And Didn’t Think She Could Justify The Expensive Trip Anymore Just To Be A Bridesmaid
This 28-year-old woman has a 29-year-old best friend named Jenny, who recently got engaged. So, Jenny will soon be tying the knot overseas at a gorgeous – yet very expensive – location.
She’s been close friends with Jenny ever since they were in high school, too. That’s why, after Jenny’s fiancé popped the question, she was immediately asked to be the maid of honor at her friend’s big day.
“I was thrilled and started helping with the planning, from dress shopping to tasting cakes,” she recalled.
But, out of the blue two months ago, she found out that she was randomly demoted from maid of honor.
Apparently, Jenny just decided to make her sister the maid of honor instead. Then, after informing her of the change, Jenny asked if she would still remain a bridesmaid.
“Jenny explained her family was putting pressure on her since it’s a family tradition. I was hurt, but I tried to be understanding,” she said.
Now that she’s no longer the maid of honor, though, the price of attending Jenny’s wedding has started to seem more unrealistic.
The event will be abroad, and between flights, hotel accommodations, and other travel expenses, she will have to spend a ton of money just to be there. So, ever since she got demoted, she’s been having trouble justifying spending that much money to be a bridesmaid.
“Especially since I’ve had some financial setbacks recently, like unexpected car repairs, medical bills, etc.,” she reasoned.
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This pushed her to ultimately tell Jenny that she couldn’t afford to attend the wedding anymore. Her friend didn’t take the news well, either, and got really upset before accusing her of backing out of the wedding simply because she wasn’t the maid of honor anymore.
Jenny claimed that she was letting her pride come before their friendship and that if she really cared about their relationship, she would figure out how to “make it work financially.”
The situation has left her feeling really terrible, too, because she honestly does want to be there for her best friend.
“But the financial strain is too much for me, especially now that my role in the wedding – and my involvement in the planning – has changed,” she vented.
Still, with Jenny upset with her now, she can’t help but wonder if refusing to attend the destination wedding after getting demoted from maid of honor is really so unreasonable or not.
Can you understand why spending so much money to be at her best friend’s destination wedding doesn’t seem justifiable anymore? What would you do in her shoes?
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