Her Dad’s Skipping Her Wedding Since She’s Asking Her Brother To Walk Her Down The Aisle Instead
This 30-year-old woman’s mom and dad got divorced when she was 5-years-old. Her dad cheated on her mom with a woman double his age.
She really struggled after the divorce, and it exceptionally got hard for her when her dad forced her to spend the evenings at his mistress’s house along with him. When she told her dad she didn’t want to do this, he would get angry at her.
Her dad paid for her child support and was there for her when she had car troubles or had to move to a new house.
That being said, he ignored her unless he was single. He got married three different times, got divorced twice, and one of his exes is a woman only 7 years older than her who hated her guts.
Her dad would talk trash about her mom and her grandma and said they made him look bad when they did no such thing.
In high school, she would drive an hour and a half to come see him, yet he would leave her alone so he could head to a bar.
Then, her dad stopped giving her an allowance after his new wife got upset about it. From there, her dad got incredibly religious and insisted women should be followers.
He did promise her that he would be more of a constant in her life, but that never materialized. Now, she’s getting married in a month, and she’s not traditional like her dad is.
“I don’t like the message of the father “giving” the daughter to her husband, so I asked a nonparental figure – my brother – to escort me in at my wedding,” she explained.
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“I knew this would bother my dad as his view of marriage is that it’s…his right and honor as a dad to “give me away.” So, I made sure to include a father-daughter dance, even though I didn’t want one, as a compromise.”
She sent her dad a note asking if he could provide her with contact information to invite some relatives to her wedding.
He gave that to her, then suddenly told her that he actually moved 10 hours away without giving her any notice.
He asked when he needed to be there for her wedding, and she decided to tell him she wasn’t including him in the ceremony, but she mentioned the father-daughter dance.
“He did not respond to me for 3 weeks, and I got a message this past weekend that said, “I will not be attending your wedding. I was concerned ever since you got engaged that I would be left out of the ceremony, and I can’t pretend to be happy to be on the sidelines. I love you, and I grieve our relationship. I will pray that one day we will find a way to be in each other’s life,” she added.
“I understand why he was upset, but I also think that he chose to sideline himself up to this point, and he should not feel entitled to this role.”
She’s left wondering if she was wrong to ask her brother to walk her down the aisle instead of her dad.
What do you think?
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