She Can’t Stop Crying After Her Boyfriend Canceled His Plans To Propose To Her
Throughout the years, this 32-year-old woman and her 34-year-old boyfriend have had a tumultuous relationship.
They dated for two and a half years, then broke up, then got back together two years ago. She has an 11-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, and her boyfriend has stepped into the role of being a father figure to her.
She has to say that her boyfriend is a wonderful partner to her overall, and he always makes her feel appreciated and loved. They have been talking about getting married sometime soon.
That being said, they do have some problems surrounding control and insecurity.
Now, in two weeks, they’re taking a vacation to Europe, and they’re staying in a gorgeous, romantic city located right on the water. Since she’s from Europe, this trip holds a lot of meaning for her.
This weekend, her boyfriend was in a bad mood after a long week at work. He did say sorry for copping an attitude with her, and she was sympathetic. After all, he has been working crazy hours.
Her best friend came to hang out at her place, along with her boyfriend, and they were having a great time until she made a comment about her neighbor getting a filtered water delivery.
She said it was something she might like to start buying, and her boyfriend snapped that it was super overpriced and she should trust him when he says she doesn’t need to go out and purchase filtered water.
Another comment was made, and her boyfriend insisted that he is always right. She couldn’t help but feel humiliated by her boyfriend being so arrogant in front of her best friend.
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She owns her own home and pays her own bills. She doesn’t live with her boyfriend. So, who is he to control what water she wants to buy? She often feels like her boyfriend acts like her manager and attempts to control aspects of her life.
The following morning, her boyfriend remarked that her best friend should not have come to her house since he was exhausted.
She actually asked her boyfriend if he wanted her to cancel her plans with her best friend, but he didn’t ask her to, so she was shocked he was picking a fight over this.
Her boyfriend admitted he still had an attitude, and then he stated he thought she was irritated with him over this.
“I told him that I wasn’t bothered by it until the two comments yesterday, and I explained to him how it came off,” she explained.
“He got very defensive and was raising his voice, yelling. I told him, “I can’t do this,” pertaining to the petty fight. To which he responded, “Well, I was going to propose to you on our trip, but now I’m not!”
“Hearing that really hurt me more than I initially realized. When we further talked about it, he said that he was going to ask me my ring size that day and also ask my parents permission. I also didn’t believe it because the timing just seemed too coincidental. He swore to me and showed me texts that he was planning to propose.”
She feels so hurt and like her boyfriend is punishing her for standing up to him. Her boyfriend argued that she makes him feel like she can’t be trusted and like she will leave him at any moment.
This is nothing new; they have been having this argument constantly over the years despite her insisting that she will not leave him.
Adding to the confusion, her boyfriend maintains she’s the best girlfriend ever, so she can’t understand why he would cancel his plans to propose over a petty fight about his moodiness.
“I also feel sad that we’re getting on the plane in 2 weeks, and he was going to order a ring online at the last second, making me feel not important enough to plan ahead and put thought and effort into the ring,” she said.
“He tried to talk about it and said he wants us to make a plan for our engagement and wants us to be excited and happy about it. I feel extremely vulnerable right now and hurt. Can’t stop crying.”
“I’m thinking over the whole relationship, and now I’m not even sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I feel let down and like I can’t ever do anything right. Am I overreacting by being hurt? How can I proceed after this? I don’t see my bf in the same light (maybe because it’s still fresh).”
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