She Threatened To Cancel Her Wedding Because Her Fiancé’s Sister Wouldn’t Stop Intruding On Their Wedding Planning, And He Kept Taking His Sister’s Side
Sometimes, you don’t see the dark side of your future family members until you’re in the middle of wedding planning with them.
A woman is threatening to cancel her upcoming wedding because her fiancé‘s sister keeps dictating their wedding plans, and her fiancé does not stick up for her.
She is 30 and getting married to her 31-year-old fiancé Roy.
She and Roy met in college, and she is super excited to start a future with him as he’s handsome, charming, and supportive.
Roy has an older sister named Kim, and he’s also close to his mother, Yami. Since losing their father when they were very young, Roy and Kim have a strong bond, and he highly respects her opinions.
Before her engagement to Roy, she didn’t get to know Kim very well, as she used to live in a different city.
Then, eight months after they got engaged, Kim moved back home and got a new job. Unfortunately, that’s when things started going downhill.
In her culture, the bride’s family pays for the wedding, so her dad hired a wedding planner and told her to do whatever she wanted.
She looked forward to planning her wedding with Roy and bringing him to meet with different vendors, but things started falling apart when Kim insisted on joining them for just about everything.
Victoria Andreas – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“She went with us to the florist, to the wedding planner’s office, to meet the caterers, [etc.],” she said.
“I wanted it to be just Roy and me, so I told him I didn’t like how Kim [was] third wheeling [for] something the two of us should be doing together.”
Whenever she complained about Kim crashing her wedding planning, Roy defended his sister and told her to be more welcoming towards Kim.
Things got worse when Kim began voicing her opinions during the wedding planning and eventually behaved like she was planning her own wedding.
Kim proudly gave her input on the color palette, her chosen chairs, and more. She became really frustrated when Kim told her she couldn’t choose one of her favorite treats, coconut pudding, as one of their wedding desserts, simply because she’s allergic to it.
Every time this happened, Roy would take Kim’s side and encourage her to let all of these things go, claiming their love was the only thing that mattered and the wedding planning should be left up to other people.
“I was really frustrated at this point,” she explained.
“It was as if we [are] planning Kim’s wedding and not mine.”
Things came to a head when Kim tagged along on the day she and her mom went shopping for wedding clothes. In her culture, brides don’t wear big white wedding gowns; they wear traditional dresses instead.
Her mom found her a green dress that she loved, but Kim told her it wasn’t her color and she should try on something else. Roy, of course, agreed with Kim.
After trying on a few more dresses, she decided on a rose gold one, figuring it would please everyone.
Then, to her surprise, when it was Kim’s turn to pick out the dress she would wear, she picked up the green dress her mom had selected and insisted that would be the one.
She was so angry that she walked out of the clothing store and fought about what had happened with Roy later that day. He told her he agreed with Kim and that the green dress didn’t suit her, so she shouldn’t be so angry.
She couldn’t believe what she was hearing and was fed up with her fiancé siding with his sister more than his future wife.
“I yelled at him and said if this wedding is happening, then it’s happening [the way] we both envisioned, or it’s not happening at all,” she recalled.
“Roy got mad at me and yelled, [saying] I was just jealous of his sister as I can never be as good as her. He said I am a bitter person for holding a grudge against Kim even though she’s been nothing but kind to me.”
She’s not holding any grudges against Kim but simply doesn’t want her future sister-in-law getting in the way of her dream wedding.
Do you think she should follow through with marrying Roy after all of this?
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