Her Daughter’s Best Friend’s Mom Bought Her Daughter A Dress That Doesn’t Fit Her And Said She Needs To Lose Weight
Two weeks ago, this mom’s 14-year-old daughter named Bonnie went shopping with her best friend, Gigi, and Gigi’s mom, Lauren.
On the shopping trip, Lauren purchased dresses for both of the girls that she thought were adorable. While this seems like a sweet gesture, it turned into a cruel one.
Lauren bought Bonnie a dress that doesn’t fit her, a size three, which is several sizes too small for Bonnie.
“Bonnie said she picked out one that was her size, but Lauren put it back and said that the size 3 one would be her “aspirational” dress to work towards fitting into,” she explained.
“When she came home, she gave it to me and was upset but also didn’t want to say anything bad about Gigi’s mom, which I get. First off, Bonnie is a HEALTHY girl. Gymnastics until she was about 11 (and grew several inches), dance in the fall and track in the spring; all her choices.”
“So she’s got an athletic build. Gigi is a small girl, barely 5 feet, and so I thought at first she [Lauren – Gigi’s mom] got them mixed up. She told me that Gigi’s mom got it for her to aspire to try to get into by “working hard.”
She promised Bonnie that she would handle everything and get her a dress that fits her. A day later, she phoned Lauren to ask her about what had happened.
Lauren mentioned she wanted to give Bonnie a smaller dress as something to work towards. Lauren thinks that because Bonnie admitted that no boys had asked her out last year, she should lose weight.
Gigi had a lot of boys interested in her, and Bonnie appeared to be unhappy over her lack of male attention.
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“I told her it was inappropriate and asked her why she would tell a kid she needed to lose weight in order to get attention from boys,” she said.
“She got defensive and said that it was obviously embarrassing for Bonnie to not have boys into her when all her friends do. She basically said I’m holding Bonnie back from growing up—like I won’t help her with boys, won’t drop hundreds at Sephora, still dress her like a kid, and buy B&BW sprays instead of fancy perfumes.”
“She said it’s messing with Bonnie socially and that she’s the only one in her friend group who hasn’t had a boyfriend. Then she got personal and said just because I’ve “given up” and stopped trying doesn’t mean I have to turn Bonnie into a nun.”
While yes, she does do all of the things Lauren pointed out, she does that because Bonnie isn’t interested in makeup or more grown-up clothes.
She took Bonnie to Ulta a year ago to go on a shopping spree because she got all As in school, but Bonnie simply wanted lip gloss and nothing else. Bonnie also asked her for the body spray instead of perfume.
In light of what Lauren said to her over the phone, she is no longer allowing Bonnie to spend time at Gigi’s house, but she is still permitting the girls to hang out.
Bonnie is not happy with her implementing a friendship break of sorts, but she doesn’t care. She wants to protect Bonnie and what’s left of her self-esteem.
“Gigi’s mom, however, has gone NUCLEAR over it, spreading poison everywhere she can about me being “psycho” and doubling down on how it’s all because I don’t want my daughter to be happy with a boyfriend when I’m single and “no man would touch me,” she continued.
“Which is just…childish. And I’ve been shocked to see how other people have reacted to this, so now I’m questioning my own parenting, which I NEVER do.”
What advice do you have for her?
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