He’s Jealous His Ex-Wife Went On A Date Last Night, Because He’s Still In Love With Her
This 35-year-old man has a very intriguing situation with his 37-year-old ex-wife Gina, and they met in 2006 when he was a freshman in college.
As soon as he saw Gina, he was obsessed with her. Gina was drop-dead gorgeous, and he was a total nerd.
He didn’t think there was any way that Gina would ever pay him any attention since he was a skinny guy who loved Dungeons and Dragons.
“The fact that Gina even agreed to go out on a date with me was a miracle in and of itself (I’m pretty sure it was a pity date if I’m being completely honest, but back then, I didn’t care),” he explained.
“Well, after said pity date, she got pregnant with our son “Nate” (he was what Bob Ross would call a happy accident). After that, we just sort of stayed together. We got married in November of 2008, shortly after our daughter “Penny” was born.”
“A couple years later, I helped Gina open up her own cafe, which she owns to this day. I make good money as a software engineer, so I was more than happy to help her achieve her dreams.”
He works from home, so he stepped up to do most of their household chores and raise their kids. Meanwhile, Gina was busy in the cafe from Monday through Friday, never coming home before 6 p.m.
In 2019, he really struggled with alcohol, and he began fighting with Gina constantly. He resented that Gina was rarely home, and she was unhappy that he drank so much.
In 2020, they agreed to go their separate ways and get divorced. But then the pandemic hit, and they were stuck living together.
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So they downgraded from husband and wife to roommates. Gina kept their master bedroom, and he moved into his office. Five years later, he and Gina are still living this way.
He proudly hasn’t had a single drink in three years, and honestly, things with Gina are going great. They get along well and are friends. Occasionally, it’s like they’re still married to one another, even though they are not.
“I’m still in love with her,” he explained. “I was in a terrible headspace when we got divorced, but I’m not that guy anymore.”
“Sobriety helped me grow and become a better person, the person I’ve been trying to become for Gina and the kids. The issue is I don’t know how to tell her. Or if I even SHOULD tell her.”
“She went on a date last night, and the jealousy is eating me alive. It’s not fair for me to ask her not to go out; after all, she’s trying to move on, which is what normal divorced people do…It feels like someone’s ripping my heart apart when I even think of her being out with another man. Does that make me selfish?”
Since he’s grown and changed into a better man, that’s what has him thinking that perhaps things between him and Gina could be so much better if they give their relationship another chance.
He’s now trying to decide if he should tell Gina that he’s still madly in love with her. He’s concerned that if he tells Gina about his feelings, it could destroy the friendliness they have worked hard to build.
All of the goodwill between them could be gone in an instant. Gina adores telling her friends that they’re thriving as co-parents and better off as friends than lovers.
“But I don’t want to just be friends with her,” he continued. “I want her to be my wife again.”
Do you think he should tell Gina that he’s still in love with her and would like a second shot?
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