She Learned Her Husband Was Talking To Other Women Throughout Their Entire Marriage, So She Leaned On A Male Coworker For Emotional Support, And Now Her Husband’s Calling Her The Cheater
This 39-year-old woman and her husband, who’s 40, have been married for 14 years and have two kids together. Yet, he’s also in the military, and she recently made the shocking discovery that he’d been chatting with other women while on duty.
“During a season of active military order, he was working away from home, but never more than two hours,” she explained.
“He would only occasionally come home on the weekends, though he easily could have, in my opinion.”
However, her husband did come home for a weekend recently, which was when she found out about the cheating.
It all began when they took their children on an outing and decided to go to a bakery. During their trip there, everyone had been playing a travel game on her husband’s phone, which was in a holder.
Then, once they got to the bakery, her husband handed her his cell phone and asked her to continue playing while he went inside.
At that point, she saw a text notification pop up from a woman she’d never heard of. She clicked on it and realized her husband had been making plans with the woman, too.
They were supposed to attend a nice dinner and go in the hot tub at his hotel together once he got back to his station.
She was obviously shocked, but she opted not to say anything that day. Instead, when her husband later left for duty again, she searched through his laptop and learned he’d been messaging various women throughout their entire marriage.
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“Many live in my husband’s home country, so I assumed their connection was not physical due to distance,” she detailed.
Nonetheless, the texts were undoubtedly “steamy,” with some inappropriate images and memes as well.
To make matters worse, some of the women were actually girls her husband swore that he no longer spoke to. This included his “first love,” his ex-girlfriend from his teenage years.
“And I even found messages from their mutual friend, telling him to stop contacting her because it was driving a wedge in her marriage,” she revealed.
Given all of this overwhelming evidence of infidelity, she confronted her husband and said she was divorcing him. To her, their entire relationship seemed like a total lie.
He didn’t take the news well, either, and proceeded to spiral. At the same time, she confided in a male coworker who happened to be going through a similar situation.
They leaned on each other “emotionally” for about two weeks before they both decided it wasn’t right and cut contact.
“Our conversation wasn’t [inappropriate], but it was providing each other the emotional attention we were lacking in our marriages,” she clarified.
Nonetheless, both her husband and her coworker’s wife have since heard about their discussions. And now, her husband and her coworker’s wife are trying to flip the script, calling her and her coworker cheaters.
The accusation was particularly rich coming from her coworker’s wife, who, according to her, had a year-long affair with a roommate.
“But his wife blames me for ruining her marriage, and my husband is telling everyone that I cheated on him,” she vented.
This has left her at a loss about what to do, and she’s not sure if she is somehow a jerk in this situation.
Does it seem like her husband is trying to gaslight her? How should she handle this?
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