She’s Been Cut Off By Her Parents For Saying She’s Not Their Personal Maid And Has Her Own Responsibilities To Worry About As A Single Mom
This 34-year-old woman is a single mom to two sons, one of whom has autism. So, she has an extremely busy schedule already.
But on top of trying to juggle her job and caring for her kids, she’s always expected to help out her parents with everything they need, too.
They began treating her like a maid a while ago, and their requests were small in the beginning. Her parents would ask her to drop off groceries or help out with tasks around their house, and initially, she didn’t mind.
As time went on, though, they began expecting her assistance more and more often. For instance, whenever something broke, they’d call her to fix it. Or if their laundry needed to get washed, or they wanted their lawn trimmed, she was supposed to do it.
“They even asked for ‘small loans’ now and then, which they’d never repay, claiming they’re struggling even though they both work part-time and could cut some unnecessary expenses,” she added.
Her parents would act totally helpless, and it was exhausting for her to deal with. Whenever she’d try to tell them no or drop hints about her also being busy or tired, they’d make her feel guilty, too.
She’d get reminded of how much her parents did for her when she was growing up. To her, it seems like her parents feel “owed” a lifetime of payback for raising her.
However, just last weekend, she finally had enough. At 7:00 a.m. on Saturday, her parents called her and demanded that she come over at the drop of a hat to help them clean out their whole basement.
“No warning, no asking if I had plans with my kids or, you know, needed a break,” she recalled.
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She refused to help her parents out, too, and her mom immediately replied, “Well, I guess you don’t care about us anymore, then.”
That was her last straw, and she finally told her parents that they needed to stop relying on her for every single little thing. She has her own responsibilities and cannot be there for them or bail them out at a moment’s notice.
Her mom wound up crying and accusing her of being “heartless.” Meanwhile, her dad agreed, saying that they were “getting older” and needed her more than ever.
“The guilt they threw at me was overwhelming, but I stayed firm for once,” she explained.
Since then, her parents have essentially cut her off. They stated that she abandoned them and were really disappointed in her. She, on the other hand, feels partly relieved.
“But also incredibly guilty, like maybe I should’ve just sucked it up to keep the peace,” she vented.
The fallout has left her wondering if standing up for herself was justified or actually did make her a jerk.
Is it fair that her parents have leaned on her so much? Should they be lending a hand to her as well? Did she do the right thing?
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