She Kicked Her Mother-In-Law Out Of Her Dinner Party After She Brought An Unexpected Guest
This 34-year-old woman and her husband, who’s 36, recently decided to host a small dinner party at their house for his family, and they carefully planned every last detail, from seating arrangements and table settings to the food.
“It was meant to be a cozy evening with just close family. We invited eight people: his parents, siblings, and one cousin,” she detailed.
She paid specific attention to the dinner menu as well since she is severely allergic to nuts and shellfish. That’s why she cooked every dish herself to avoid any cross-contamination.
Now, given the fact that it was a sit-down meal with a pre-planned menu, the dinner wasn’t like other get-togethers where you could easily add one more person at the last minute. Nonetheless, that’s what her mother-in-law tried to do anyway.
About one hour before the night was set to begin, she received a text from her mother-in-law, who planned to bring her husband’s aunt, saying the aunt was “in town and had nowhere else to go.”
This made her feel uncomfortable immediately for two main reasons. First, there wasn’t enough seating or food. Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, that specific aunt had mocked her food allergies in the past and claimed not to “believe in all that nonsense.”
“And [his aunt] even tried to convince me to ‘just take a bite’ of a dish containing nuts because she thought I was exaggerating,” she revealed.
So, she texted her mother-in-law back and tried to be both firm and polite, writing, “I’m so sorry, but we don’t have extra seating or enough food planned for another guest. I hope you understand.”
Spoiler alert: her mother-in-law never answered her text and instead showed up with her husband’s aunt anyway.
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She was shocked when she answered the door, yet her mother-in-law was smiling and acting as if nothing was wrong. Then, her mother-in-law commented, “It’s just one person! We’ll squeeze in.”
She explained again how there wasn’t enough food. Plus, she voiced how she didn’t feel comfortable with someone who openly disrespected her food allergies eating at her dinner table.
In response to that, her husband’s aunt actually just laughed and sarcastically stated, “Oh, don’t worry, I won’t poison you!” His aunt also turned to her husband and asked, “Is she always this uptight?”
That last remark finally pushed her over the edge. She felt like her boundaries and health had been totally disrespected, so she snapped and called out her mother-in-law.
“I told you we didn’t have room for another person, and yet you still showed up. I don’t appreciate being ignored in my own home. If you can’t respect that, you’re welcome to leave,” she said.
The room went silent, and her mother-in-law’s face turned red before she got accused of being “beyond rude” for kicking her husband’s mom and aunt out over “one extra plate.”
To make matters worse, her husband’s siblings got involved, blamed her for being “ungracious” and “dramatic,” and claimed she could’ve just figured it out or made extra food.
Regardless, she wouldn’t budge and told her in-laws that she wasn’t okay with her boundaries being blatantly disregarded, and if they weren’t willing to accept that, then they could leave.
This pushed her mother-in-law to grab her purse and storm out. The remaining guests followed suit, too, all while muttering about how she “ruined dinner over something so small.”
As for her husband, he barely spoke up during the fight, but afterward, he seemed torn about the situation.
“He told me he understood my frustration but thought I could have handled it more tactfully instead of outright telling them to leave,” she vented.
In the wake of all this drama, she’s getting called cold and inhospitable by her in-laws. Her mother-in-law also feels hurt that she would “choose to humiliate her over something so minor.”
Now, she can’t help but wonder if refusing to accommodate her husband’s aunt as an extra dinner guest and causing his whole family to leave actually did make her a jerk.
Would you want to accommodate a last-minute guest who’d been rude to you in the past? Should she have dealt with this situation differently or not?
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