She Freaked Out On Her Husband For Spending Thousands On Spicy Content When They’re Living Paycheck To Paycheck
Living paycheck to paycheck, only to find out that your partner’s been spending thousands of dollars on spicy content is not a situation I ever want to find myself in, but sadly, that’s this 35-year-old woman’s life right now.
She got married to her 30-year-old husband seven months ago, and they have been with one another for four years in total.
Before her husband came into her life, she had a rough time meeting Mr. Right.
“To say I’ve had rotten luck in my love life is an understatement. I’ve been married twice before, and it took a lot of convincing and soul searching before I said yes to him, and generally, I’m glad I gave love another chance,” she explained.
“He’s been wonderful to me, and is a dedicated and caring stepfather to my children, and they love him dearly, along with his whole family. I’m getting these positive things out of the way as a preface.”
“Now for the negatives. We aren’t well off financially by any means. In most cases, we live paycheck to paycheck, and last year was very rough for us, especially around the wedding. Either way, we do what we can.”
She is the breadwinner, and she pays the majority of their bills, which doesn’t bother her. She would love for her husband to bring in more money, but he’s financially irresponsible: there’s no way around that.
Her husband gets a ton of takeout and never misses an opportunity to purchase merchandise from the gamers he follows.
She understands everyone likes to buy things they don’t need from time to time, so it’s not that upsetting to her that her husband makes impulse purchases.
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Not that long ago, her husband quit his toxic job, and he promised her that he had enough money in his bank account (they have separate ones) set aside to tide them over until he found another job.
She was supportive, and her husband quickly found a different position a week later. Then this week, they had a little emergency to deal with that cost them $600.
Her husband confessed that he didn’t have enough money to help with that, which made her upset, as he insisted they had enough cash.
His brother loaned him the money, and he stated he would pay his brother back as quickly as possible so they could resume saving.
She tried to give her husband the benefit and moved on, though yesterday, she spotted her husband’s phone right next to her desk.
They aren’t weird about going through the other person’s phone, so she picked it up and thought it would be fun to post something hilarious on his Facebook account.
As she was on her husband’s phone, she noticed he had spent $60 on his Cash App account during the week he was unemployed.
She saw there were more and more transactions, all spent on a platform known for selling spicy content. While she doesn’t have a problem with her husband consuming photos or videos of that nature, she says there’s plenty of that content online for free.
She went right to her husband about the money he spent, and he said he deleted his account on the platform, suggesting he hadn’t really spent that much money on the content.
“I asked to see his phone to see just how much more there was. He hesitated until I threatened to flush my engagement ring and wedding band right now if he didn’t show me,” she said.
“He admitted that there was more, and he didn’t delete his account, and handed me his phone. When I say I was FLOORED, I was floored.”
“I only went back about a year, but in that year, he spent thousands on…content. Many of the transactions were well over 100 in one go, and then there were still more from that one day. Recurring payments, one even from the day before our wedding.”
She absolutely freaked out on her husband. She sobbed, she yelled, she demanded to know why he would do this.
They have been barely making ends meet, and she can’t believe her husband spent thousands of dollars on spicy content, of all things.
She and her husband came dangerously close to losing their home; that’s how behind on their bills they were quite recently.
Her husband spent what could have covered their mortgage payment for two months on steamy content, and she was beside herself over that.
“The fact that he felt the need to PAY for particular people’s content felt like a betrayal. Am I overreacting in feeling like this?” she wondered.
“I thought about kicking him out (the house is mine) and being done, but I’m so tired of marriages and relationships not working out, and I’ve been ridiculed over my marriage track record. But out of all the horrible betrayals I’ve had, this feels like the biggest.”
“He wants to make it work and deal with everything to fix things, but I can’t trust him. Sure, there’s love there, but trust is paramount to me, and it’s hard to rebuild once it’s broken. Not to mention taking my kids out of his life and his family’s life.”
She doesn’t want to get everyone else dragged into the drama. Her husband is sleeping on their couch until she decides to allow him back into the bedroom.
She’s not sure if she should walk away from her husband over this.
What advice do you have for her?
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