If your spouse cheated on you, but provided you with everything you could want or need, would you be willing to walk away from the stability and comfort?
This 31-year-old woman has been with her 34-year-old husband for the last seven years, and they tied the knot after only eight months of dating.
Overall, she only counts three of their years together as the good ones, and the rest have been pretty terrible. For four of the years she’s spent with her husband, he’s been cheating on her like crazy.
He promises it was never anything physical, but he did text other women, put himself on dating sites, and tell other girls he would provide for them (while she was pregnant, no less).
Also, during her pregnancy, he invited girls over to their house while she was out at a doctor’s appointment. Her pregnancies were pretty miserable thanks to his antics.
While her husband has never yelled at her or acted in a mean way, he doesn’t show her any emotion. He shows her affection exclusively when he wants something from her.
So, why is she willing to stay with a cheating man? Well, she and her kids have literally everything they could want or need.
“Go to private schools and get the best education they can receive. Go on the best vacations. Also, because I don’t have to work, he’s not misogynistic and expects me to have a spotless house and dinner ready as soon as he walks into the house,” she explained.
“I get whatever I want, never says no. Plus, I just want my kids to have both parents under the same roof, and we never argue in front of the kids. I would never speak badly about their dad to them because, yeah, he’s a [bad] partner, but not a [bad] dad.”
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“And yes, I have my own $ and my own account that transfers $3,500 every 2 weeks (from his) and have access to the main account. So I have a good bit saved up and can leave whenever I want. I stay because it’s convenient.”
If her husband suspects that she is not happy, he pulls out all the stops. He purchases flowers for her, love bombs her, and buys her expensive presents, even though she tells him that won’t fix anything.
She’s told her husband about her concerns and frustrations, and he swears he will change, but he hasn’t. Because of that, she’s lost her feelings for him over the years.
At this point, she no longer loves him. She views her husband more as her friend with benefits. She surprisingly has managed to forgive her husband for everything he has put her through, but it’s not like she’s about to forget.
“I’m still here living with him because he makes our lives comfortable and I know I couldn’t provide this kind of lifestyle to my kids on my own,” she added.
“We’re in good terms now (as good as it can get), we joke around and obviously hang out as a family, and we have [a great personal life] (surprisingly), but I’m not in love with him anymore.”
She’s left wondering if she’s a jerk for staying with her husband, and she is curious if that makes her a gold digger.
I think if she’s comfortable, and this arrangement or lifestyle works for her, why leave? Different strokes for different folks, and if her kids are happy too and her husband is a great dad, there’s nothing wrong with hanging in there.
What do you think?
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