It doesn’t matter how perfect someone is on paper, or how incredible their personality is; if you don’t feel a spark, you shouldn’t keep on dating them, because it’s cruel to lead them on or waste their time.
This 29-year-old woman has been waiting a while to meet Mr. Right, and she finally ran into a 31-year-old guy who is completely and utterly wonderful.
This guy is positive, upbeat, enthusiastic, and kind. He’s everything she’s been looking for, and he brings forth all of the qualities she desperately wanted but didn’t have in her last serious relationship.
“When I am with this fella, conversation flows, things feel easy, natural, and sweet. However, it’s about 3 months in, and when it comes to kissing, I can’t say that I am thrilled,” she explained.
“I would think after countless dates and 3 months of talking, I would be excited to jump his bones, but I do not feel that way. It guts me because I know it is regarding the weight. I am fit, always have been, and have never personally been attracted to overweight men.”
“A lil dad bod is one thing, but being twice the size of a healthy weight is another. I can’t help but adore his character, intelligence, and consideration of me, but I am struggling every day with this feeling that I am forcing myself to like this guy because he treats me right.”
He is making a conscious effort to improve his health and lose weight, but she knows that, given how obese he is, it’s going to be a long haul for him to seriously slim down.
So far, she doesn’t think he has tackled the underlying issues that will help support a healthier lifestyle long-term, and that’s additionally concerning to her.
He very well could lose weight and simply put it back on because he’s not really doing the heavy lifting. She is passionate about wellness, so it may just be that they are incompatible.
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“We feel aligned in every other way, however. If anyone has been in my shoes, please share with me! I am all ears, thank you!” she concluded.
She’s pretty heartless to be leading him on because he’s a nice guy, while knowing there is no chance of romance. She is forcing a connection, and that won’t work.
The kindest thing she can do is stop seeing him and let him find a girl who will appreciate not only all that he has to offer, but will also feel attracted to him.
There’s zero chance of her developing feelings for him if she hasn’t already.
What advice do you have for her?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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