It’s nothing but tragic when people accept the bare minimum in relationships, and sometimes I’m shocked at just how low the bar is for some people.
Would you sleep with the same person on and off for a decade, knowing they most likely aren’t as invested in you as you are in them, while hoping for them to have a change of heart?
This woman has literally spent the last nine years of her life sleeping with the same guy, and things have been off and on with him throughout that stretch of time.
“I’ve always had feelings for him, and recently I finally told him I’ve been in love with him. He’s made it clear he doesn’t want a relationship, and I’ve accepted that (he is scared of dating due to his last relationship),” she explained.
“The issue is his behavior doesn’t match that at all. He constantly makes comments like: ‘You need a man in the house, I could do so much for you, your house is so close to my job.'”
“Jokes about marriage. Even asked me to have his baby. I’ve told him multiple times that if this is casual, those kinds of comments are confusing and mess with my head. It makes me question if this is turning into something more.”
Whenever she does address his comments with him, he claims to be simply joking, but then he will tell her that she’s clearly seeking a relationship, so she should stop seeing him.
She thinks he’s intentionally pulling her in, then getting upset when she thinks there’s something more between them than just being hookup buddies.
She’s left wondering why he’s acting like this, and if he’s just messing around with her heart and playing games, or if there is more to it than that.
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“My brain automatically thinks he’s flipping back on it being a joke because he’s scared to actually fall for me, but the logical part of me thinks it’s just a game where I’m clearly losing,” she continued.
“I’d like to edit and add some more info, I’m a single mom that works overnights, so dating isn’t really something I have a whole lot of time for, and that’s mainly why I put up with it. It was comfortable, even if in the end I got hurt.”
I really couldn’t picture waiting around for a man for nine entire years, hoping he would realize I’m the one, or fall in love with me.
Her self-esteem has to be in the toilet for accepting this as her love life! Mixed signals are only an excuse on a short timeline. What’s going on with this man is just cruel, toxic, and the most obvious example of being strung along.
No wonder she can’t find a lasting relationship if this is what she keeps going back to. Being a single mom working weird shifts isn’t enough of a reason to think that being with a man like this is ok. She needs to stop seeing him and sleeping with him for good.
What advice do you have for her?
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