How hurt would you be if your significant other waited six months to let you know their parents will never approve of you because of what you don’t do for a living?
This 30-year-old woman started dating a 31-year-old man back in December. They’re of the same ethnicity, though they grew up in the United States. She never dated a guy from her same background before.
Anyway, she recently graduated with a PhD in a science-related industry, and her boyfriend is almost done with his medical residency.
She met her boyfriend on a dating app, and their relationship has been nothing but wonderful from the start. They have a ton in common, and although they both have been busy, they’ve made time to see one another at least once a week.
Her boyfriend was the one who brought up if she wanted to have children, and he made a lot of plans for their future, so he was all in on their relationship.
In July, his fellowship begins, and he will be moving to a town that’s a one-hour flight from her. Meanwhile, she’s secured a job in the city where they both live.
She and her boyfriend weren’t concerned about the distance, as they already live an hour’s drive from one another at the moment, so the only thing that changes is that they will have to take a plane into consideration for travel plans.
Her boyfriend promised that he would fly down to see her as often as possible, and she was not expecting anything to really be different.
“When he felt my tone was off over text (this only happened once last week), he called me to make sure I wasn’t upset with him. He repeatedly told me that I make him very happy. We were in love,” she explained.
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“I got completely blindsided last night as he called me to break up with me because his parents don’t approve of me, because I’m not a physician or a lawyer.”
Her boyfriend is an only child who adores his parents. He’s quite close to them and talks to them every single evening on the phone.
Her boyfriend mentioned to her that he tried absolutely everything, but his parents issued him an ultimatum and forced him to choose between them and her.
Ultimately, he does not see how he can be happy if his parents are miserable about the woman he’s with. And that is why he had no choice but to dump her.
“I feel he was genuine in this; he was bawling on the phone during our conversation and could barely get his words out. He told me he didn’t tell me about it sooner because he didn’t want to taint the relationship and wanted me to be my authentic self,” she added.
“But I had no idea they felt this way; I never even met them. I thought they would have liked that he’s dating someone with the same background. And I’m a highly educated person, just not a medical doctor.”
“My question is, how do I get over this? Part of me wants to tell him that even if he finds a doctor or a lawyer, his parents are never going to be happy. They’ll just find something else to nitpick about.”
Additionally, she’s worried her boyfriend will resent his mom and dad because they caused the breakup. But regardless, she’s left wondering if she should chew him out or simply walk away and respect his wishes.
How rude of him to have wasted six months of her life, knowing his mom and dad would never like her because she’s not a doctor or a lawyer!
Since he’s allowing his parents to still pull all the strings, he’s not someone she should want as a partner anyway; it’s better to have a man who thinks for himself and doesn’t let mommy and daddy dictate his life.
The trash took himself out on this one. She should not waste any more of her energy on this man. Time to block him and move on.
What do you think?
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