$300,000 is a significant amount of money, so how would you feel if your spouse co-signed a bail bond for that amount to get their sibling out of jail without telling you? Is that divorce-worthy, or something you could work through?
This 34-year-old man has a 30-year-old wife whose brother is a total player. Well, his brother-in-law just got arrested for stalking a woman while having an illegal firearm with him. This woman called the police before he could reach her, and his brother-in-law was arrested.
“…He was going to pick up a very expensive dog from her, but IDK if that’s the whole story or their relationship; he’s with a different woman every other week,” he explained.
“So, my wife rushed to the house to get me to go down to the bail bond office and co-sign, which I didn’t [want to] do, but went anyway, ’cause, [you] know, maybe it wasn’t much.”
When he arrived, he began signing the required paperwork, and then was told the bond was $300,000 for his brother-in-law! He quit moving forward with the process and walked out of there.
His wife informed him that her brother and her mom will come up with the money, so long as he completes the paperwork and signs his name on it.
“I didn’t because he’s unemployed with no diploma, and what would happen if my MIL couldn’t work to pay? I barely even know my BIL, [and] he’s always in & out of jail,” he added.
He and his wife got into a blowout fight on their way home, and they had to stop the car on the side of the road; it was that bad. They were screaming at one another and hurling heated words back and forth.
He said he absolutely would not sign anything, while his wife argued that he won’t actually have to give her brother any money since her mom makes a boatload of it and can cover the bond.
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The thing is, his mother-in-law cleans hospitals for a living and definitely doesn’t have $300,000 just lying around. One day later, his wife went behind his back and gave out his personal information to the bail bondsman.
Next, she went through his phone, accessed his email, and forged his name on the paperwork to move ahead without him.
“I found out and was furious! She was crying, apologizing, [and] begging me not to call the office, which I DID. I’m supposed to be speaking with the manager later through a phone call to see what I can do,” he continued.
“How can I ever forgive her when she has broken my trust? She’s done stuff like this before, like taking [and] using my debit cards, buying stuff online, and sending money to her friend in jail, and lost my bank card she ‘borrowed’ recently.”
“I let all that go because they were small purchases, [and] because she’s my wife [and] I love her, but this is next [level]. For years, I tried so hard to keep a good credit score, especially since hers is bad.”
That’s just one valid reason to file for divorce. How is he supposed to ever trust his wife again after she did something so serious? She forged his name and put them in a dangerous position, as they will be on the hook for that $300,000.
What advice do you have for him?
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