I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase, “bigger is better,” but is size really everything when it comes to men and relationships? Or is that something that can be overlooked if a man has an amazing personality, paired with other attractive qualities?
It’s been approximately a year since this 20-year-old girl started dating her boyfriend, who is four years older than she is. He’s truly a catch, and she’s not lying about that.
“…Honestly, he’s amazing, like literally perfect, funny, smart, kind, everything I could want in a person, and I love him like I really do,” she explained.
“I’ve had some really bad exs before him, and he’s really helped me recover from their toxic [trash] and actually be happy. Like he’s perfect in every way, but he’s on the smaller side for sure, and I can’t stop thinking about it.”
“I try to ignore it and focus on all the other amazing stuff, but it’s always in the back of my head. I keep thinking about the future and if I could ever really be happy with him forever, and like I know it’s not his fault, and he can’t change it, I know.”
To be fair, her boyfriend is good in bed, and their romance is perfectly fine in that respect. She says that he makes her happy in other ways too, but she’s not sure it will ever end up being enough for her.
Those internal feelings have made her feel horrible and like she’s leading her boyfriend on. She’s come to hate herself for considering dumping him because he’s too small.
She knows her boyfriend deserves to find a girl who doesn’t worry about size and won’t have panicky thoughts about it, and she’s not that girl.
“I just don’t know if I ever could be that person, and the thought of staying and getting more serious makes me feel like I’m just lying to him,” she continued.
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“Honestly, I don’t know what to do. I feel awful even typing this, but I keep thinking maybe I should just end it now before it gets worse, but then I feel like an absolute monster for even thinking about it, but I can’t talk to my friends about this, so please just tell me if I’m the [jerk] for this?”
I think it’s really hard out there to find amazing men, and since she’s got one, she should hang onto him and work through her own insecurities about his size.
But when you truly love someone, you love them no matter what, so I am concerned she’s not actually in love with him, and that’s a tragedy too.
She does owe her boyfriend an honest conversation first about her concerns, because there are other things they can add in to spice things up.
And she does need to ask herself if she really loves the poor guy, since if that answer is no, size is the least of their worries, and she has to let him go find someone who will appreciate all of him.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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