If someone asks you on a date, most people assume that means they’re single. She did too…until he waited halfway through dinner to say otherwise.
Earlier in the week, this woman met a new guy who asked her to go out on a date with him. He offered to pick her up, which she accepted, and he drove over half an hour to come see her.
They hung out at her house for a bit and chatted before heading out to dinner. He tried to touch her hands a few times, but she was shy and just kept talking.
Everything was pretty excellent, but when they got to the restaurant to eat, he very brusquely blurted out that he’s leaving in two days for a two-week-long vacation to see his family.
“He pays for my drink, and we sit down and have some more conversation. He starts opening up about two of his exes, his depression, and his family,” she explained.
“I’m really not great at these types of conversations, so I tried to lighten things up by making jokes and deflecting. Eventually, I could tell he really wanted to talk about deeper things, so I asked him questions and listened.”
“After he opened up, I shared some deeply personal things as well. I told him that I wouldn’t be telling him this stuff if he hadn’t opened up first.”
She also let him know that the hardships that she had been through were the reason why she uses jokes as a deflection tactic. But she made it clear to him that she wasn’t on this date simply to trauma bond and nothing else.
It was then that he told her that he had a girlfriend, and everything that went down with his ex was pretty recent. He mentioned that things with his girlfriend were quite serious, but he asked her out on the date to have some fun.
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As if we was trying to be noble or something, he told her that he was not trying to lead her on or anything like that. Hilarious, right, because why ask someone out on a date if you’re in a committed relationship?
“I asked him to take me home. In the car, he asked me if he upset me, and I said I was fine. He tried to make it up with me, but I assured him it was okay, and we didn’t have to pretend to be cordial with each other,” she continued.
“When we got to my place, I thanked him for the ride and wished him well on his visit to his family. He asked if he could come inside, and I explained that I think we want different things, and I didn’t want to put him in a position to hurt me.”
Well, I think he was just trying to use her for a hookup or treat her like a free therapist. He should have told her before the date that he was in a serious relationship with another girl!
Also, just as a side note, it’s not wise to let a guy you don’t know pick you up on a first date.
What do you think about the date?
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