Chip Chick
“Yeah, this is silly. Old lady, Sunday dinner. You code switch for the day. You don’t dress however you want at every event; at work, you dress suitably for work, at home you wear your PJs; you probably don’t wear just PJs and crop top to the grocery store or church; you don’t wear a bikini to go skiing.”
“We wear different things for different contexts. Grandma’s Sunday dinner is s particular context—dress for it.”
“I agree with individual autonomy, but I feel the GF is being a tad dramatic. Why wouldn’t she want to do this extremely small thing to help her partner?”
“Jesus, I get your point but it’s one Sunday, a few hours out of a month with an 89-year-old woman. And as a feminist (I say feminist, but really pro-human rights for anyone especially the marginalized) I get the need to fight for your autonomy but it also won’t hurt to just wear longer sleeves or whatever.”
“I don’t think anyone has a right to dictate what anyone wears, especially women, but it sounds like she expects the same from everyone, if everyone else is more conservative than she was and she’s already weary of having people who haven’t been in the family for long, this is clearly a part of tradition, not sure if I’d call it formal but it’s treated as such.”
“She’s 89, it’s a bit too late to be trying to force a lesson. What’s the point of keeping your partner away from someone he doesn’t have much time left with (not to be morbid but it’s true)??
“Maybe I’m underestimating the situation, but it doesn’t sound that different from going to an establishment with a dress code?”
“If roles were reversed and a boyfriend was told not to wear cargo shorts I doubt anyone would mind.”
