Her Mother And Stepfather Are Furious Because She Does Not Want To Invite Her Stepfamily To Her Wedding
This woman’s wedding is approaching very quickly, and, for months, her mother and stepfather have been harassing her about the guest list.
This debacle stems all the way back to the woman’s childhood– when her father sadly passed away while she was just seven years old and her sister was five years old.
Apparently, her father’s side consisted of the most active family members in their lives. Her mother’s family, on the other hand, was far from involved.
Then, her mother went on to marry her stepfather two years later, when she was nine years old– and his family did not keep up much contact either.
And after her mother got remarried, she did gain some step-siblings who, at the time, ranged from three to eight years old.
“We all lived together, and there was drama because, out of all of us, my sister and I were the ones with an extended family involved in our life,” she recalled.
For example, her extended family would show up for her and her sister’s significant life milestones, such as school plays and graduations. But, they did not show up for her step-siblings– which her mother despised.
And now that she is getting married, they first wanted her to give her step-siblings full roles in the wedding. But, she put her foot down and refused to do that.
“I love my sister more. I care about my sister more. To me, she is my real sibling, and they are not the same,” she said.
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And more recently, they have also been bugging her to invite her stepfather’s family– which she is seriously opposed to. After all, she and her fiancé are footing the bill for the entire wedding– and they already decided who they did and did not want to invite to the ceremony.
Plus, she feels like she barely even knows her stepfather’s side of the family and does not want to spend extra money on people whose attendance she would not miss.
But, after she tried explaining this to her mother, stepfather, and step-siblings, they did not have it. Instead, they argued that they would be more comfortable if some of their family were present at the wedding. Still, though, she would not concede and rather told them what it would take to add her stepfamily to the guest list.
“After a lot of pressure, I said that they could not dictate our guest list unless they want to pay for the wedding,” she explained.
This did not go over well with her mother and stepfather, though, who claimed she had no right to “demand” they pay.
They also called her rude and entitled and even accused her of using her wedding as a weapon to hurt the family even more. So now, she is completely at a loss about what to do. She does not want to invite people she genuinely does not care about to the wedding, but she also does not want to be a jerk to her own nuclear family.
If you were in her shoes, how would you mediate this situation? Do you think wedding guest lists should always just be up to the partners getting married?
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