He’s Refusing To Take Over The Guardianship Of His Disabled Sister After His Terminally Ill Mother Passes Away
This twenty-six-year-old man has a little sister named Patricia, who is fifteen. Patricia was also diagnosed with very low functioning Autism at an early age.
So, ever since then, his parents have always cared for Patricia because she requires a wide range of special treatments and care.
Sadly, though, his father recently passed away due to complications stemming from COVID-19.
Plus, just last week, his mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and she is not expected to live until the end of this year.
“This has absolutely shattered our family, and we are still reeling,” he said.
Nonetheless, his mother has been forced to get her affairs in order. And the most pressing issue is who will care for Patricia after she passes away.
Unfortunately, though, he does not have a ton of family members to lean on.
So now, his mother has been pushing him to take over the guardianship of Patricia.
But honestly, he just really does not want to and told his mother no.
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“I know it sounds heartless, but it just is not something I am willing to spend my life on,” he explained.
And his decision has absolutely broken his mother’s heart– because now, she has no idea what to do.
Moreover, she has become really pissed off at him. She has been asking why he does not care about Patricia and claiming that, as Patricia’s big brother, it is his responsibility to look after her.
But, he really does not have a huge explanation as to why he does not want to take over Patricia’s care.
He simply just does not want to be a caretaker.
“It feels horrible hurting my mother like this in her final months, but I also have to think about my life past this year. Patricia would severely hurt my life, and I am just not the type to be a caregiver,” he vented.
In fact, he was apparently very uncomfortable around his sister growing up and moved out of his childhood home as soon as he was able to.
Plus, that experience also made him not want to have any children of his own.
So, if he took on Patricia’s care, he would ultimately commit himself to providing lifelong childcare– something he never saw for himself.
Still, he cannot fathom upsetting his mother so much before she passes. He suggested putting Patricia in a care facility, but his mother is very opposed since she believes they are miserable for people with disabilities.
But, he really does not want to forgo Patricia’s suffering and live with his own resentment if he takes her in.
In turn, he has been left in a really sticky situation and is not sure if refusing to take over Patricia’s care would be a totally selfish thing to do.
Do you think he has a right to say no? How would you navigate this situation?
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