She Doesn’t Think It’s Ok To Loyalty Test Anyone That You’re Dating, And When She Shared Her View With Her Boyfriend, He Got Really Upset With Her
A 23-year-old girl is currently dating a guy the same age as her. Yesterday while she was on TikTok, she learned that some people in relationships will do a loyalty test on the person that they are dating.
If you don’t know what this means, essentially, if you want to loyalty test your partner, you can reach out to certain people on social media who will turn around and try to flirt with your partner to see if they take the bait.
Anyway, she was so alarmed to find out that some people think that this is ok to do, as she believes it’s really quite wrong.
She did end up telling her boyfriend about how she just found out about loyalty tests, and she let him know that she thought it was an incredibly mean and destructive thing to do to someone.
She feels that if you don’t trust your partner and there’s no way to talk through that, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them anyway.
Her boyfriend does not agree with her at all, though, and when they chatted about loyalty testing, he tried to get her to see why he thinks it’s ok.
Her boyfriend is of the opinion that if you feel the need to loyalty test someone because it will make you feel more stable and comfortable being in a relationship, it’s really no big deal.
She did mention to her boyfriend that he wouldn’t be able to sway her opinion, and she asked that he never try to loyalty test her. She also stated that if he felt that he couldn’t trust her, she expected him to have a conversation with her about it and that she would be happy to let him look at her phone too.
Well, her boyfriend simply said to her that if he ever feels mistrustful of her in the future that he will just plan to dump her then.
Dmitry Tsvetkov – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
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“I’m really shocked and hurt by this response; he completely ignored the advice I gave him about how to handle a situation like this with me to just say something mean and hurtful,” she explained.
“Later on, he told me the reason he said it is because he felt defensive because I was saying loyalty tests are objectively a wrong thing to do, but that doesn’t make a lot of sense to me.”
“He went on and on about how all kinds of people cheat and how if I tell him now he can go through my phone, I’m setting a precedent that if I ever do cheat, I’ll just delete the evidence. Part of me feels like it was a threat to get me to agree to be okay with being tested because my other option is a breakup. Part of me feels like this is coming from a place of deep insecurity. All of me is confused.”
Do you think her boyfriend was giving her a veiled kind of ultimatum?
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