This 17-Year-Old Blew Up On Her Parents And Told Them That Her Sister With ASD Is Not Her Responsibility
This girl is seventeen years old and has a twenty-three-year-old sister who has Autism spectrum disorder. And honestly, she has never really had a great relationship with her sister.
“I have come to strongly dislike her. My sister has always had tantrums and destroyed my things– whether it be toys, electronic devices, or relationships,” she recalled.
“And my parents always come up with excuses about how it is okay and how I do not need help or compensation.”
But, the bigger issue that has seriously upset her concerns her parents– more specifically, how her parents expect her to always look after her sister.
She claims that she is often left to babysit her sister by herself without any proper instructions. And if she ever voices how much that upsets her, she just gets punished.
Her parents have decided to pay her for her time– about nine dollars an hour– in recent years. However, she is still left alone with her sister for hours and sometimes even days on end.
“I learned to cope and just watch her. And now I can do it safely and easily, but I still really want to do normal teenager stuff,” she revealed.
So, she applied to a steakhouse nearby and secured a job there. She has also found a place to live after she turns eighteen. And in the meantime, she had been trying to limit her babysitting time while looking forward to her high school graduation.
In fact, she planned a graduation party for the end of this year and had been super excited about it. Recently, though, she learned that even that milestone might get clouded by her parents’ lack of accountability.
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It all began earlier this week when she mentioned to her mother how she would be throwing a graduation party at a friend’s house.
Then, her mom dropped a total bomb on her and said that she needed to invite her sister because her mom and dad were planning a date night.
So, in one fell swoop, she learned that her parents would not be attending her graduation. And on top of that, she would not even be able to attend or walk at the ceremony because she was going to have to watch her sister.
Finally, after not even being able to attend the graduation, she would have to bring and watch her sister at her own grad party.
She was understandably upset and told her mom that she could not bring her sister along– because, aside from all of her personal reasons, her friend’s house also had a lot of breakable items that she did not think her sister should be around.
However, her mom did not care. In fact, her mom claimed that it was fine and that she would just have to pay for whatever her sister broke.
So, at that point, she lost it and came totally clean to her mom about her feelings.
“I told my mom everything– about my new job, moving out, and essentially, how my sister is not my problem anymore,” she said.
Her mother did not even hear her concerns, though. Instead, her mom actually had the nerve to say that the family depends on her and asked how her mother and father would ever be able to retire without her help.
The latter part totally confused her, though, so she asked what the heck her mom was hinting at. But then, it finally came out that her parents had planned to retire early and travel the world; meanwhile, they expected her to stay home and care for her sister.
After hearing that, she literally could not believe her parents and finally decided to tell them off.
“She is your daughter, not mine. She is your responsibility, not mine. I will be eighteen soon, and I will have no legal obligation to you or her, and I will not let the girl who has dictated and destroyed my life wreck my future,” she told her parents.
“I hate her, and I am sorry you put yourself in this situation. Deal with it like I have been since I was nine.”
Her parents were totally stunned, and apparently, her mother has not stopped crying ever since. Her father has also been berating her for what she said about them and her sister.
And when she confided in her friends about the situation, they shared that while they agreed with the sentiment, she did not have to be so harsh.
Plus her mother also told her sister what she had said. So, just last night, she watched her sister have a meltdown right in front of her.
And honestly, all of this has left her feeling totally ashamed. So, while she truly believes that she deserves to stand up for herself, she is not sure if blowing up on her parents was the right way to go about it.
Do you think her parents should have ever expected that much from their seventeen-year-old daughter? If you had been in her shoes, would you have blown up on your parents sooner? How do you suggest that she reconcile this situation?
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