His Ex-Wife Wants Him To Pay Child Support So She Can Save For Her Other Four Children’s Futures, But He Is Totally Refusing
About thirteen years ago, this man and his ex-wife got divorced. Before they split up, though, they had two children together who are now teens.
More specifically, he has a daughter who is seventeen and a son who is fifteen.
During the divorce, both he and his ex also got shared fifty-fifty custody of their children. And because of that, neither of them has ever paid child support.
After all, they already spend equal time with the kids and split the costs of all expenses, such as school, medical, dental, extracurricular activities, etc.
On top of just supporting his children, though, he also decided to save for them, too. Beginning when they were born, he actually opened bank accounts for each child and has been putting money away for them ever since then.
And in addition to his monthly contributions, he also had two distinct payouts that seriously helped him set his children up for the future.
First, about eight years ago, he was injured while at work and came into some money due to that. So, he put all of that money into his kids’ accounts.
More recently, about four years ago, he also had a relative pass away, and he was listed as a beneficiary.
In turn, he was given a generous sum of money– all of which also went into his children’s savings.
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“The money I have now saved for them will help them tremendously in their futures,” he said, “whether they go to college or not.”
Now, his ex-wife ended up traveling a very different path following their divorce. Apparently, she got remarried several years ago and has four additional children in her household now.
One of his ex-wife’s kids is a stepdaughter, who is sixteen. She also has two children with her new husband, who are five and seven.
And finally, his ex is also raising one of her husband’s nephews, who is fourteen.
So, as you can imagine, his ex-wife does not exactly have a ton of money to spare. And this became a point of contention recently after she found out just how much cash he had put away for his children’s futures.
It all began recently when his ex-wife wanted to talk to him about their kids’ college plans.
“She told me that she and her husband had told all their kids that community college would be the most affordable option for them and that they would get as much help as possible. But, a more expensive school would be tough on them,” he recalled.
Obviously, though, he had a good amount of money put away for his two children. So, he informed his ex-wife that their kids would have the option to attend a more expensive school if they wanted since he had already saved a “more than healthy amount” for their education.
His ex-wife was more shocked by that than anything, though, and asked why he had never told her about his saving plan sooner.
But according to him, he was simply taking care of his children, and that was not something he believed his ex needed to know about.
Anyway, a few days after revealing the savings accounts’ existence to his ex-wife, the conversation kind of came back to bite him in the butt.
Apparently, both his ex-wife and her new husband decided to call him up and claim that he needed to start paying child support. The reason why they wanted child support, though, totally blew his mind.
More specifically, his ex-wife claimed that she wanted child support just so she could start saving for her other kids’ futures.
If you could not have guessed, though, he was completely against that– and told his ex that he would not pay to support other children who are not his.
At that point, though, his ex-wife’s husband decided to butt into the conversation and actually had the nerve to suggest that he just “offer” to split all of the money he has saved up for years between all six children– four of which are not his!
So, understandably, he said there was no way in hell he would pay for another kid’s college education when he only has a responsibility to his two children.
“And I told them if they wanted to save more money, I would happily take the kids more if my kids wanted to spend more time at home with me,” he added.
His ex-wife just did not get that, though, and actually called him cruel.
Then, she even claimed that keeping split custody while paying for his children’s siblings to go to college, too, should be a “no-brainer” for him.
But after hearing that, he honestly snapped and finally shut his ex-wife down.
“I told her the day I have an obligation to help her support her entire household is a day in another universe where we never broke up. But we did, and she has to accept that she is equally responsible for our kids as me,” he vented.
But, despite speaking the truth, both his ex-wife and her husband just kept claiming that he was being a total jerk.
So now, even though he truly feels like he has done nothing wrong in this situation, he has been forced to wonder if refusing to essentially support his ex-wife’s four other children via child support makes him a jerk.
Do you think divorced parents are obligated to share how or when they are saving for their children’s futures? Why do you think his ex-wife feels entitled to child support to save for her other four children that are not related to him? Is that his problem to worry about? If you were in his shoes, how would you have handled this situation?
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