She Told Her Family That She Really Can’t Afford To Attend Christmas This Year If They Expect Her To Help Pay For The Food, And They’re All Angry At Her While She’s Just Left Feeling Sad
A 20-year-old girl has forever spent Christmas at her mom and dad’s house, but last year, everything was different.
You see, a year ago marked the very first time that her brother and his wife got to host Christmas at their place, and it was pretty stressful for the couple.
She does have dietary restrictions, and her brother and his wife really struggled to get stuff together that she could eat.
Also, back then, she did not live in the same city that her family does, so she was not able to help at all with any Christmas preparations.
She has since moved to the same city as them, and she is able to help out this Christmas with everything needed to pull it off.
“Since I’m a student, the money is tight, but my brother and SIL earn extremely well even compared to our parents,” she explained.
“When we spent Christmas with our parents, we didn’t have to contribute financially towards the feast, but this year the cost is shared by our parents and them. As I can’t afford it, my compensation is the organization and cooking the feast as none of them enjoy such things. This is not a small task since I’ll have to start the preparations days before Christmas and do everything on my own.”
“However, since I’m not the one paying for the meal, I shared my plans weeks ago with all of them, and they have agreed on the menu. A couple of days ago, I sat down and calculated how much all of this would cost and sent the info to my family. This did not go down well with my brother.”
Her brother is honestly pretty cheap, which doesn’t bother her, but when it comes down to what they’re eating for Christmas, it’s the same price that it is every single year, and it’s not exactly extravagant.
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She says, all in, the food they purchase for Christmas costs slightly more than what you would spend on a normal meal any other day of the year.
When her brother got upset with her about how much the food would cost, she said that maybe they should eliminate something on their menu, and he said they should eliminate the one dish she wanted to make as a treat for herself.
The thing is, this one dish is one of the only things she can eat, whereas every other dish on the menu is something her entire family can enjoy, as they do not have dietary restrictions.
Her brother insisted on only taking off this one dish that she was really looking forward to, which meant she pretty much would only be able to eat salad and potatoes while the rest of their family had tons of dishes to choose from. Her brother then lamented about how all of the food was so pricey, so they really needed to cut out this one specific dish since nobody else would eat it, and it wouldn’t make sense to keep it on the menu.
Quick side note: her brother did this a year ago too, but her mom wouldn’t allow him to take out dishes that did not include her. Last year, her brother accused her of being too emotional and causing problems over the food.
“So, to his opinion, I said that it’s fine. I’ll just not attend and spend Christmas by myself since I can’t afford to pay for the dish since I already provide my main,” she said.
“My brother got mad and said that it’s not what he meant. I replied that this would be the most elegant solution to the problem since the feast would be cheaper and I wouldn’t have to work so hard for a meal I can’t eat…He got super mad at me, while my mother got mad at him and decided to spend Christmas at my place. Now everyone is mad at everyone, but honestly, I’m mainly just sad and feel like I ruined everyone’s Christmas.”
She’s left wondering if it was rude of her to inform her brother that she would be skipping out on Christmas since she can’t afford it.
What do you think?
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