“That was probably the first tick,” she said. “Literally, we walk around. I’m in heels, he’s walking fast. I tell him, ‘can you slow down a little bit?’. He’s already upset with me.”
This is where his behavior, and the situation, gets a little too creepy. His attitude is quickly becoming abrasive.
“[He] tries to take me to his apartment that I didn’t even know was here,” she explained. “And he’s like, ‘Oh yeah, I just need to charge my phone.’.”
She immediately was uncomfortable and let him know that, asking to just remain outside while he ran in on his own. She was enacting self-preservation in the event of a dangerous situation–something which he didn’t take kindly to.
“I don’t really know you, and I’m not about to go into someone’s apartment by myself thirty minutes away from my house. That just doesn’t sound safe, I don’t know you,” she said. “I don’t know why, but guys get so offended when you’re like, ‘you might be a murderer.'”
It’s totally understandable that on your first encounter with someone that you’ve never met before in your life that going up alone to their apartment at night is fuel for nightmares and horror films.
She wasn’t doing anything wrong, either, by saying no because she felt unsafe. Intentionally putting yourself in danger in a situation like this is a bad move to make–one that she could see ahead of time.
“I could be a murderer! You could tell me that, it’s fine! It’s a first date!” she said, annoyed at his reaction. “He tells me that I’m being too shy, too quiet.”
As if the date couldn’t get any worse, they end up at a restaurant for dinner. To top it off, he’s one of those customers who is rude to the wait staff– a major red flag.
When they’re turned away because they have no reservation, he tries to argue with the hostess.
“He goes, ‘We’re just trying to go to the bar! I know the owner!'” she said. “Interrupts her! Already a bad sign.”