His 22-Year-Old Daughter Wants To Get Married To A 30-Year-Old Guy He Seriously Disapproves Of, So He Is Refusing To Give Them Any Money For Their Wedding

arekmalang - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
arekmalang - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This man has three daughters, and his eldest two– who are 29 and 27-years-old– are happily married with families of their own.

He also supported both of their weddings and even footed the bill– with each wedding costing around $20,000.

His 22-year-old youngest daughter, however, is currently seeing a guy who she believes is “the one.” Quite frankly, though, he just is not a fan of the guy.

Apparently, his daughter’s boyfriend is 30-years-old and had not lived on his own until moving in with his daughter about six months ago.

Aside from that, he believed that the couple moving in together was a bad idea for yet another reason– the fact that they had only been dating for three months at the time.

Nonetheless, they did it anyway. And since then, his concerns about his daughter’s boyfriend have only grown.

He claims that the boyfriend has gone through two jobs during the past six months and is now unemployed.

“[Her boyfriend] was fired from both and had a ton of stories about how it was everyone else’s fault in both cases,” he said.

His daughter’s boyfriend also reportedly had a lot of excuses about why he could never move out of his mother’s house.

arekmalang – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

In fact, his daughter’s boyfriend moved in with her after claiming that his mother was abusive to him at home– which was hurting his mental health.

“But I am starting to think the ‘abuse’ was more people having some bare minimum expectations of the guy,” he admitted.

First of all, he claims that his daughter is contributing more to the bills than her boyfriend. Second, the boyfriend reportedly has serious accountability issues and lousy hygiene.

He also claims that his daughter’s boyfriend is just lazy and not that intelligent. So, his daughter and her partner “live like slobs” and are always struggling to make ends meet.

Recently, though, his concern for his daughter’s relationship increased tenfold– because a few days ago, his daughter approached him about getting married.

Apparently, she claimed that she and her boyfriend are already starting to look at wedding venues. Plus, his daughter wanted to know what he would provide for their budget even though they are not engaged yet!

He ended up telling her daughter that he would be giving them no money, and he also claimed that they had no business getting married. According to him, though, his daughter got “huffy” with him and said she would just have to elope then.

So, he told her that would be fine since he obviously could not stop her from making that decision. However, he did tell his daughter she needed to understand that if she wanted to make these kinds of adult decisions, then she would be treated like an adult.

In his eyes, that means that she and her husband will be responsible for figuring out how to take care of themselves and whatever kids they have. Moreover, “dad” was not going to just bail the young couple out whenever they needed.

Ever since then, though, his daughter has been giving him the silent treatment. Well, except for when she told him that he could not dictate who she married.

“And that her sisters both had their wedding paid for, so I obviously don’t love her the same,” he added.

Anyway, now, he has been stuck in a pretty sticky situation. He obviously loves his daughter, but he knows that she has always been pretty desperate to grow up and get married. On top of that, he truly believes that his daughter is more in love with the idea of marriage than who her boyfriend actually is.

“She can be very immature. She is the baby in a large extended family, and I think that has a bit to do with it. Which is why I don’t want to enable this fairytale she is cooking up,” he vented.

At the same time, though, he has still been left wondering if not supporting his daughter’s wedding and refusing to pay for it makes him a real jerk.

What would you think if your daughter was dating a guy like that?  Does he have a right to be concerned about his daughter wanting to get married so suddenly? Do you believe his daughter is really just in love with the idea of marriage? How would you handle this situation? 

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