She Says That If You Really Want To Get To Know Who A Guy Truly Is While On A Date, All You Have To Do Is Listen

Emily Chan |

Mar 11, 2023

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Usually, it takes many years of being in a relationship to know every single detail about your partner.

But if you don’t want to waste your time with someone you’re not sure about, there’s something you can do to find out who they are, what they stand for, and what they really care about before deciding to continue dating them. And all you have to do is listen.

TikToker and psychologist Esther Sarphatie (@sarphatieesther) is sharing some solid advice on what women should do on a first date.

But her advice can also be applied to any situation where you’re meeting someone for the first time.

“I’m only telling you this because I wish that somebody would have told me this long ago,” started Esther.

Esther recommends paying close attention to a potential romantic partner’s words when you’re meeting them for the first time.

The very first things he chooses to discuss actually reveal a lot about his nature and personality. Whether he brings up his ex-girlfriend, his mother, or his career, those are the subjects he tends to value most.

Through the things he says, you’ll be able to tell what kind of man he is on the first date.

Even if he doesn’t specifically mention outright that he’s a kind, sweet, assertive, or jealous type of guy, you will be able to judge for yourself when you open your ears.

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Several TikTok users wholeheartedly agreed with Esther’s lesson and determined that the act of listening can make or break a relationship.

“Absolutely true. My ex was talking so much about his ex; in the end, we broke up because he wasn’t over her, and it was just upsetting me,” commented one user.

“I’m a man, and this is by far the best advice for women. What made me fall for the love of my life was the fact that she listened to me and remembered,” shared another.

“He constantly spoke about his favorite rock band and movies that he watched. 22 years later, I realize he just wanted fame,” chimed in a third.

So if you really want to get to know someone, simply just sit back and listen.

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Next time you have a first date with a romantic partner try to listen to what he talks about. The very first things he chooses to talk about, say a lot about him. Your questions about what kind of man he is are all in what he will tell you about himself on that first date. We often don’t remember what was spoken about, because we are too busy with how we look or with how he looks, but what he says will show you what kind of man he actually is. If he talk about his family, you will know that they are important to him and if you want to get to know him, all you have to do is to listen to him. #listen #firstdate #date #dating #datingadvice #datingtips #datingadviceforwomen #firstdates #firstdatetips #firstdateadvice #romantic #romance #love #datingtipsforwomen #forgirls #viraltok #viraltiktok #lovetiktok #fyp #foryourpage #foryou #loveadvice #firsttime #him

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