She Wants Her Own Bedroom In The 3-Bedroom Home She Is Buying With Her Fiancé, But Her Fiancé Wants To Use The 2 Extra Rooms As A Home Office And A Home Gym
This 24-year-old woman recently got engaged to her 25-year-old fiancé. And now, in anticipation of their wedding, they will be moving into a three-bedroom house together in just a few months.
Recently, though, the topic of how they will divvy up the rooms has become a major point of contention.
She revealed how she never actually had her own bedroom growing up. Plus, in her current apartment, she has been sharing a room with a roommate in order to save some money.
Due to this reality, she has always felt like she needed to share her personal space.
“And I felt guilty when I wanted to be alone in my room but couldn’t since someone else was in there,” she recalled.
This means that the only time she ever truly had a room all to herself was when her sibling or roommate would be away from home. Even then, though, she still did not really feel like she had a space that was entirely hers.
So, when it came time to speak with her fiancé about the use of their new home’s spare bedroom, she decided to voice what she really wanted.
More specifically, she mentioned how she hoped to turn the spare bedroom into a bedroom just for herself that she could use whenever she wanted to be alone.
Her fiancé was pretty confused by this, though, and claimed that he had planned to turn the spare bedroom into an at-home gym instead.
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But, it’s important to remember that their house has three bedrooms– meaning that aside from their shared bedroom, her fiancé was already making the second room into his home office for when he needs to work from home.
So, she pointed out how her fiancé had already staked his claim over one of the two extra spare rooms.
“And I should be allowed to use the other one for myself,” she argued.
She also tried to explain to her fiancé how she had been looking forward to having a space entirely to herself.
That way, she could have exclusive access and go in there to be by herself whenever she needed to be alone.
Her fiancé just did not understand her perspective, though, and claimed that the entire point of getting a home together was to share everything– not simply divvy up the space to coexist separately.
Afterward, her fiancé said that he would change his mind about the at-home gym if they agreed to use the space as a guest bedroom.
That way, they could both use the room whenever they wanted to have their own space.
Quite frankly, though, she admitted how that arrangement still made her feel like she would have to share.
“If I have a room to myself to use, and he wants to be alone at times, I can just go into my own room and give him the space he wants,” she vented.
She also noted how she and her fiancé plan to split all of their expenses 50-50. So, she really does not believe her request is unreasonable at all.
Regardless, though, with her fiancé still not agreeing with her, she has been left wondering whether wanting her own room makes her a jerk or not.
Is it understandable that she wants her own space? Is it fair that her fiancé gets to use one of the extra bedrooms for his home office, yet she has to compromise about the other extra room’s purpose? How do you think they can reconcile this situation?
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