Since Having A Stroke Last Year, It’s Become Incredibly Difficult For Him To Communicate With His Wife, And They Recently Got Into A Big Argument About Towels For Their Kids
When a family member suffers from a medical emergency like a stroke or seizure, they can have tragic lasting effects that can throw off a family dynamic.
One man is struggling to communicate with his wife after suffering a stroke that left him with aphasia. Now he can’t seem to stop arguing with her over everyday things.
He and his wife are both in their 30s and have kids together. Unfortunately, he had a stroke last year, which put a lot of stress on their family. Thankfully he’s alright, but he does have a side effect known as aphasia.
According to the Mayo Clinic, aphasia is a disorder typically brought on by a stroke or head injury that “affects how you communicate.”
Aphasia impacts speech and communication, making it harder for people to understand or express themselves in conversation.
He said that since having a stroke, he’s found it incredibly difficult to communicate with his wife.
“Since the stroke, our communication is worse,” he said.
“Sometimes when I talk to her, she says I’m mean, and she cries, and I have no idea why. I don’t know if I’m misspeaking, or she’s sensitive, or if something I say is actually mean.”
They got into a big argument recently after a minor incident happened during their children’s swim class.
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He took their kids to the pool for class while his wife was at work. Once they arrived, he realized he had forgotten their towels, so he texted his wife, who offered to stop by their house and drop the towels off at the pool.
He replied, simply saying, “thank you.”
He called her back once the kids were in the pool, and she explained that it would take her longer than expected to get there as someone had blocked her car in the parking lot at her job.
“I didn’t hear from her for 15 minutes,” he remembered.
“I considered asking the front desk for towels or sun-drying the kids, but I was just stuck because I didn’t know if my wife was coming. I know some people would handle the uncertainty better, but it stressed me out.”
Once his wife arrived with the towels, they didn’t say much to each other as he was distraught. He didn’t say anything at the moment because he wasn’t quite sure what would come out with his condition.
After his wife offered their kids to bed at home, he asked her if they could talk about what had happened that afternoon.
“I told her I feel like I can’t trust her when I ask her to do something because she won’t update me if there are unforeseen circumstances,” he explained.
“I was careful to say I wasn’t criticizing her, just sharing how I felt.”
Although she understood what he said, she became upset, pointing out that he was complaining about not getting the towels on time but didn’t even thank her for dropping everything to get the towels for him in the first place.
He said he thanked her when he texted her back, but it wasn’t enough to show his gratitude. Now he thinks his wife is “self-absorbed” and is under the impression that she can’t be there for him when he has “negative emotions.”
Should he apologize to his wife for not thanking her enough?
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