Her Boyfriend Told Her That He Wants Her To Lose Weight So He Can Feel More Attracted To Her
This 27-year-old woman has a boyfriend a year older than she is, and sadly, her boyfriend has shown her basically no affection in about a year.
She admits that she put on approximately 20 pounds within the first year and a half of dating her boyfriend, and the year after, she didn’t gain any more weight.
“Much of that was just recovered weight because I don’t naturally sit at the weight he met me at (110lbs at 5’2”) and made that clear right off the bat that I was thinner than normal because I had been laid off and had tons of free time,” she explained.
Currently, she has a job that she adores, but it’s incredibly stressful. She has been active throughout her entire life, but over the past 6 months, she hasn’t been going to the gym that much.
She gets to the gym about a day or two a week, and when she is at the gym, she’s taking yoga or spin classes or focusing on strength training.
Additionally, she has a large dog that she walks about 2 or 3 times every single day, and one of the walks she takes her dogs on daily lasts half an hour or more. So, you can see she really is quite active.
Now, back to her boyfriend’s lack of attraction. She did confront him about it as soon as she began noticing it.
She then questioned her boyfriend about if his lack of attention was at all related to her weight gain, and he said it was.
“I was heartbroken but tried really hard to have results,” she said. “I lost 10 pounds, then gained it back. Lost 6 pounds, then gained it back. And now, we haven’t (been physical) in months, and I’m so unmotivated from the lack of results and also the fact that he has stopped treating me like I’m at all desirable.”
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“I still get hit on a lot at bars, so I thought I was still attractive enough, but after conversations, he confirmed again that he doesn’t feel that attracted and said I should “do what he says because clearly what I’m doing isn’t working.”
Her boyfriend then tried to persuade her to hire his friend as her personal trainer, but she didn’t feel ok with that arrangement at all.
Her boyfriend’s friend is a big guy, and into bodybuilding, so she would feel far too timid to work out with him.
She attempted to inform her boyfriend that she’s doing her best to lose the weight, but she’s struggling.
“I tried to tell him that I am trying, but that I’m just depressed for the above reasons and just wished he could compliment me and make me feel beautiful as I am,” she continued.
“He basically admitted he didn’t want to because he felt it would encourage me to stay this way and that he genuinely prefers fitter body types.”
“At this point, I feel so broken. I know I want to lose weight; I know I was more attractive then, but I feel like his love is too conditional. Like if I lose it for him, ill resent him. And if I don’t lose it, I’ll never let him touch me again based on how unloving he’s been about it.”
Do you think she should ditch her boyfriend instead of the weight and find someone who really values her no matter what?
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