She’s Pretty Sure She Made A Bad First Impression With A Guy She Really Likes, And She’s Wondering If She Should Try To Salvage Things
This 35-year-old woman met a 28-year-old guy through some of their mutual friends; a couple who is married.
She and this guy wound up going out with their friends a week ago, and they grabbed some drinks together.
Their friends wound up going home on the earlier side, so she and this guy kept hanging out so they could get more acquainted.
Then, he wound up sleeping over at her place. After he went home, he sent her a text saying that he had a wonderful night with her.
Days later, they were still chit-chatting, and everything seemed to be going great. Over the weekend, she had a birthday party to go to, so she invited him along.
He did end up coming, and at the party, he met a couple more of her friends.
“The thing is, I was pretty drunk by the time he arrived, and I don’t remember if I was jolly/fun drunk or obnoxious/bratty drunk,” she explained.
“We separated from the group at some point, had a drink at another bar, and then he was walking me home.”
“I think I was expecting him to come over, and he said he’ll go back to his, to which I responded something along the lines of: that’s clearly an inferior choice. He just moved from Europe to my city in North America and is staying on his cousin’s couch while he gets settled.”
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His cousin’s boyfriend was staying at his cousin’s place, so she said it would be better for him to spend the night at her place again so they could have some private time.
Well, instead of wanting to do this, he said no.
“He said that even though we slept together the first night, he’d rather not again anytime soon and that he wants to take it slow,” she said.
“I don’t remember how I responded to that. Right now, I actually really love that he wants a steady pace and that this will be good for both of us. But what did drunk-me do? I vaguely remember agreeing that that’s a good idea, though not immediately, perhaps. I think it was a does-not-compute moment for me. I also shared with him that I’m on anti-anxiety meds, which isn’t a big deal but still private, and if I could go back in time, I’d keep it to myself for a few more weeks/months.”
The very next morning following the birthday party, they spoke a bit over text, and when she mentioned that there was a picnic happening later that day, she expect him to reply that he would like to go with her.
It’s since been 24 hours later, and he hasn’t said a single thing to her. She’s beginning to think he’s not interested in her at all following her drunken incident.
Although she can just move on, she thinks there is something there between them, and she doesn’t want to throw the towel in so early.
“Dating is so hard, and it’s so difficult for me to like someone. Should I send a text in a few days if I don’t hear from him?” she wondered. “Either, “Could you remind me what we talked about that night?” or “Apologies if I was being annoyed that night, I’m not usually like that. I’d like to get to know you better, as you said, at a pace that’s comfortable for the both of us. I’d love it if we gave us a chance but wish you best if you feel otherwise. Thanks for everything.”
What do you think? Should she just move on or try one last time to make a better impression?
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