Her Husband Nearly Ruined Their Marriage After Having A Wild Bachelor Party A Month After Their Wedding, So Now That He’s Going Away For Another Bachelor Trip, She Is Seriously Uneasy
A couple of months ago, this 28-year-old woman’s husband decided to have a bachelor party one full month after their wedding. And not only was she left at home while pregnant at the time, but her husband also broke her trust by crossing some serious boundaries.
Apparently, before the trip, her husband promised that the bachelor party was just going to consist of golfing and spending time at the beach with his guy friends.
“But it ended up being a weekend of debauchery that included other women and tables at clubs, lying about where he was, and I found messages of him asking his friends to delete incriminating photos of him,” she recalled.
“It caused a HUGE fight, and we were not okay for well over a month.”
As you can probably imagine, she felt extremely betrayed. And the fact that all of this occurred during only their first month of being married– while she was at home pregnant with their daughter– made her even more upset.
Still, despite her husband crossing her boundaries, he swore on their daughter’s life that he did not cheat and never would. So, they spent weeks working out their issues following the trip.
And eventually, she decided to believe her husband when he claimed he did not cheat and attempted to just move forward.
Now, however, one of her husband’s best friends is set to tie the knot soon. So, the friend is having a bachelor party weekend in the Hamptons, and she is far from thrilled.
According to her, the friend is known to enjoy clubs– especially since his fiancée does not care at all. That’s why her husband’s friend has numerous tables at clubs lined up throughout the weekend.
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Meanwhile, she will be at home again– this time 30 weeks pregnant with their daughter– as her husband is partying it up and doing who knows what in the Hamptons.
And given what happened at her husband’s own bachelor party, she doesn’t feel super secure this time around.
They have both known about the upcoming bachelor party for a long time, too. So, after what happened last time, she thought her husband would decline and not want to put her in the same situation again.
However, she and her husband have just avoided discussing the bachelor party altogether because they obviously both know that the conversation will not end well.
But, with the bachelor party now just two weeks away, it is getting tough to avoid, and she is feeling very uneasy.
“I feel like I’m in a lose/lose situation because I either let him go and suffer through the weekend feeling stressed and anxious and very uncomfortable with the whole thing, or I tell him he can’t go and he’ll resent me and all of his friends will know I’m the reason he had to back out last minute,” she explained.
During their fight about her husband’s bachelor trip, he apparently even told her that he would not go to his friend’s celebration. However, conversations about the bachelor trip have since come up twice with her husband’s friends.
And both times, he claimed that he planned to attend.
So, while the ideal outcome would have been for her husband to back out of the trip by himself a long time ago, that ship has sailed.
To make matters even worse, her husband will also be flying across the country to attend his same friend’s wedding when she is just five weeks postpartum. Apparently, they were both invited, but she is not able to be away from her newborn so soon.
She was initially fine with her husband attending the wedding, too, since he is a groomsman, and she didn’t want him to miss out. But, coupled with the bachelor party trip, the whole situation just feels very unfair to her now.
“I’m really heartbroken by the fact that he isn’t making the necessary sacrifices to make me feel safe and supported at the most physically and emotionally turbulent time in my life,” she vented.
So, she is becoming quite resentful. And whenever she tries to bring this up to her husband, he just defaults to defensiveness, and it turns into a big fight.
That’s why she’s been left wondering how to deal with this situation and whether asking her husband not to attend the bachelor party would be reasonable or not.
Can you believe her husband had a bachelor party after they were already married while she was pregnant? Does she have a right to be upset about the entire situation? Does it sound like her husband is putting her first? How do you suggest she handles this?
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