Her Sister-In-Law Said It Looked Desperate That She And Her Husband Taught Their Toddler Son Sign Language, And It Had To Be Because They Expect A Lot From Him
Unfortunately, some people have a hard time letting go of the past. It’s hard when you have close friends or family members who are still bitter about something that happened years ago.
One woman’s sister-in-law is still resentful of her husband due to their childhood and is starting to take it out on their young son.
She and her husband have a three-year-old and a five-year-old. Her husband has three sisters that he has a complicated relationship with because of their childhood.
Her husband was always “the golden child,” and his parents favored him. His sisters still resent him for it and use their past to make him feel guilty.
“My husband gives them so much money, and they just ask for more, shamelessly using their childhood as an excuse,” she said.
“I’ve told him to stop helping, but he insists that he has to. It’s like talking to a wall, but our kids are happy, fed, and get whatever their hearts desire, so I let it slide.”
Since his husband’s sisters haven’t done anything involving their kids, she’s left their relationship issues alone. However, during a recent family gathering, she snapped when one of her sisters-in-law said something related to their youngest son.
Their three-year-old hasn’t started speaking yet. Their doctors haven’t seen any major underlying issues and believe he may be a late bloomer. While trying to encourage their son to speak, she and her husband needed to figure out a way to get their son to communicate his basic needs to them.
Her husband knows sign language, so he began teaching some words to his son. For instance, they taught their son how to sign “hungry” and “food” more mealtimes.
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They also taught her husband’s parents how to sign the same words so that they could communicate with their grandson.
Recently, she thought her family would be having a nice dinner with only her in-laws, but she was upset to see all three of her husband’s sisters were there as well.
As they sat down to eat, her mother-in-law began signing with her son to indicate food was coming. Her son seemed happy to be able to communicate with his grandmother, and it was a sweet moment. Then, one of her sisters-in-law ruined it.
They had never seen her son sign before, so they asked what was happening. Two out of three sisters were indifferent when her husband explained their son’s situation.
But then one of them said that having their son learn sign language was “a bit extra.”
When her husband asked his sister to elaborate, she said that since there was nothing wrong with their son, having him learn sign language made them seem desperate and meant they must expect a lot from him.
She was puzzled by her sister-in-law’s logic. But instead of apologizing, her sister-in-law kept inserting her opinion and eventually said, “My brother’s used to perfection, so I’m sure he can’t stand the thought of his own child being anything less, but he’s three, and there’s so much pressure on him.”
Then, her sister-in-law brought up their childhood and basically said she knew how it feels to seem inferior to her brother.
“I was a little shocked,” she said.
“My husband noticed and told her to mind her own, but I was insulted. I told her to stop projecting her feelings onto my son.”
Her sister-in-law got upset and said that her feelings about her childhood were valid, and before long, her other two sisters-in-law started jumping down her throat as well.
They left the dinner party early, and her husband hasn’t made any comments about their fight. Her mother-in-law has since called her and asked her to apologize to her sister-in-law.
Should she apologize, or was her sister-in-law acting toxic?
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